Narcissism is one of the most studied personality traits in the field of psychology. If it occurs at an extremely high intensity, it can lead to mental disorders, such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but even at low levels it exhibits striking and sometimes contradictory characteristics.
In this article we will see what are the characteristic traits of narcissistic people and how it is possible to identify them.
1. Sense of greatness
Narcissists talk and act as if they are part of the most important elite on planet Earth. This is noticeable, for example, in the way it is addressed to others: it is not necessarily hostile (it is not usually hostile), but it is based on the assumption that one has power and that the other must match one.
But not all narcissists transparently express their sense of greatness. Some adopt a rather low and discreet profile. In these cases, the feeling of greatness is based on the fantasy of a future in which one power will be displayed that will subdue the rest, and on the cultivation of resentment against those who are perceived to be better valued by their social environment.
2. They get frustrated quickly
When something goes wrong, narcissistic people react with anger and in a quick, almost automatic way. This is so because of the grandiose self-image that they try to maintain through their actions and their interaction with the environment and with others. it can be deeply damaged by any accident.
3. They aspire to leadership roles
Another characteristic of narcissistic people is that, because reality matches their self-image as much as possible, they try to gain power and step into leadership roles. Not that they are better leaders in themselves, but they try to avoid cognitive dissonance to hold a role below in a hierarchical manner and at the same time to believe that it is more than the others.
4. They have low self-esteem
It may seem counterintuitive, but narcissists have, behind the armor that is their public image, more insecurity than others. That is why it frustrates them deeply if others do not show them due respect (Which, to meet their expectations, is very high).
Thus, the self-concept of these people is all or nothing: by default, an idealized self-image is taken for granted, but the slightest friction against reality generates a lot of discomfort and defeats all beliefs about oneself. . .
5. Stories are invented so as not to take their mistakes
Narcissists have serious problems accepting that they have made a mistake, and they avoid showing their weakness by asking for forgiveness.
This is why they project the guilt onto others, reaching extremes in which the failure of an action they have performed is seen as the fault of another person who is not present, for example for having bought a shoddy item or material with which you cannot function well.
Sometimes the frustration of not being able to come up with a barely believable story on the fly as to why another person is to blame for what they did can lead to increased frustration and anger.
6. They value aesthetics and appearances very much
Narcissists are constantly judging the rest, And that’s why they need a simple, easy way to do it. In practice, this means that they pay close attention to how people look: the clothes they wear, their style, etc. They should not better value those who best correspond to the canons of fashion, but rather attribute more or less “character” and “personality” to those who meet certain requirements.
7. They control their image a lot on social networks
They are very scrupulous people when it comes to filtering the image they give on social networks like Facebook. As well as having a tendency to have many “friends” added (because having a lot of them gives an image of popularity, whether they are known or not), they only show the personal photographs that have been the subject of a photo. selection process. Sometimes they use picture editing programs to retouch those photos trying not to get noticed.
8. They take everything as a personal thing
Narcissists believe that whatever happens is part of a popularity contest. Unfortunately, this means that they are often overwhelmed by someone, even if someone doesn’t even intend to please others. In these cases, the narcissist feels attacked and can adopt strategies of attack against the other, not always facing him directly.
9. They do not understand the concept of “constructive criticism”
For narcissistic people, it is unacceptable for someone to focus on their mistakes and weaknesses. Therefore, the idea that these reviews can be used to improve oneself in the future does not make sense.