The human being is by nature a social being and this is why loneliness is often experienced as something negative. However, there are people who value their solitude and prefer to choose to spend their free time alone at certain times; although we can also find people who suffer because of their loneliness and want to avoid this feeling at all costs.
The types of lonely people we can find are: “conforming loners”, “conscious and proactive loners”, “fighting or escaped loners” and finally, “suffering loners or martyrs”.
In this article let’s see what each type of lonely person consists ofboth from the point of view of their particularities and their commonalities.
Characteristics of single people
It is important to emphasize before looking at the types of single people, what are the most common characteristics of these single people who enjoy spending time with themselves.
Although social relationships are very important to people and forming emotional bonds with others is one of the essential pillars of good health, It is also important to know how to be good with yourselftherefore to have a healthy interpersonal relationship, it is essential to have developed a knowledge of being healthy when someone is alone.
One could say that in this field the ideal would be to find a certain balance between knowing how to take advantage and take advantage of the moments alone and, in return, developing healthy and lasting interpersonal relationships.
Here are a few characteristics of people who like to be alone and prefer to be alone on certain occasionseven if they are in the company of other people:
- They have developed great introspection and self-knowledge, so they have very clear ideas.
- They generally value their time above all else, enjoying every moment; although they also respect that of others.
- They tend to have great mental toughness, so they tend to cope better with difficult situations.
- They tend to develop an open mind, so they don’t stop doing different things or listening to new ideas.
- They tend to be loyal, preferring to have fewer friends but be true friends.
- They like to do things alone.
- They generally have a great ability to concentrate on what they are doing and enjoy the present.
Now that we have seen some of the most common characteristics of these people who are able to take advantage of their time alone to learn, grow and have fun, we will continue to explain what the different types of single people are and, as we can see, there are many people who suffer because of their loneliness, have serious difficulty taking advantage of alone time to do enriching things.
The different types of single people
If we ask questions on the street about loneliness, it is more likely that most people will tell us that they would rather be in company than in solitude, because this concept has a rather negative connotation; however, like many other things in life, being alone is not always a bad thing because when a person learns to enjoy their moments of solitude, look at them with optimism and enjoy their time, they can achieve things she might not achieve. constantly surrounded by people (for example, reading a book that enriches you).
As mentioned above, there is no doubt that any excess is bad and therefore Being completely alone for a long time can be very harmfulbut spending some time alone and knowing how to take advantage of it can be very enriching and also healthy, because a good indicator of health is feeling good about yourself.
However, not all the circumstances that lead a person to be lonely are the same and not all people in the same company experience them and therefore we will discuss below the different types of lonely people that we can find .
1. Conformist loners
The first of the types of lonely people in this classification are “conforming lonely people” who constitute people who they find themselves alone and are content with this situation even if they do not find it pleasant to be like this.
In this category we can find people who, although they consider that they will appreciate things and life in general more when they are accompanied by other people and also do not appreciate loneliness, do nothing to change this situation bothers them and causes them some discomfort. In these cases, it often happens that these people have certain difficulties in establishing new interpersonal relationships of any kind (friendly or sentimental).
Conformist Solitaires are often passive in seeking interactions with other people in order to maintain healthy and lasting interpersonal relationships.so they often passively wait for others to take the first step to interact with them, so this could be the main cause of their loneliness, as others may interpret their passivity as a denial of social contact with others.
2. Conscious and proactive single people
“Conscious loners” are the second type of lonely person in this classification and refer to those people who are aware of their loneliness and don’t care about it in the sense that they accept circumstances as without and without seeking to deceive, so this they don’t spend their time craving the company of others, but try to keep busy doing things they enjoy. and make them grow at different levels, investing their time in themselves (for example, playing sports, reading a book they like and teaching them interesting things, etc.).
The loneliness of conscious lonely people may have been caused by various reasons such as certain life circumstances or they may simply be alone by choice. In each case, they seized it, despite obstacles that one can hardly imagine. »
Conscious loners they also have no difficulty relating to other people and they may even have healthy relationships with friends and family they enjoy when they are in their company; however, they don’t care to be alone and sometimes prefer to be alone and isolate themselves.
3. Lone Fighters or Escapees
The third type of solitary person in this classification is that of “lone fighters”, which refers to those who they don’t want to accept their lonelinessso they try to fight to eradicate it and for that they try to have a very busy life and a very tight social life which can exhaust them.
All of these actions may even involve lone fighters leading a lifestyle and a range of behaviors that run counter to how they really feel; that is, they do things that don’t really come on their own in order to fit in socially with other people (for example, partying with other people even though they do not want to, practice a sport that does not attract their attention with the aim of integrating socially into a group of people who practice it, etc.).
Therefore, in this case, we can find people who they do their best not to spend moments of solitude and, although they tend to be busy and surrounded by other people all day, they actually feel lonely to their core because they are not doing the activities that they in many cases really enjoy, but only do it to be around other people. .
They avoid loneliness at all costs because feeling it scares them very much and, instead of trying to find activities that they can enjoy in their company and face these moments of loneliness, they prefer to avoid being alone, anyway, because they believe that they could only feel good if they were accompanied.
4. Suffering from lonely people or martyrs
The “suffering lonely” is the fourth type of lonely person in this classification. These people they feel deep discomfort when alone, so they constantly complain about their situation and therefore feel unhappy..
These people, when talking about themselves to someone (for example, a family member or a psychologist during therapy), constantly express their suffering and also talk about their unhappiness and this constant negativity when it’s about expressing and feeling for the most part. is what they pass on to others, which could cause some people to distance themselves further, which would further increase their feelings of loneliness.
It is quite common for people suffering alone to tell others how badly they feel and the misfortunes they are going through in order to solicit their sympathy; however, this negativity that they convey most of the time and their constant need to complain It might actually prevent others from enjoying your company. and so they can walk away from it.
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