What is self-esteem? Some say you have to feel like the best, others say it’s a negative thing because they feel fatal when they think about it, and others say it’s a balance between how we value ourselves based on how others value us.
For me, self-esteem is a friendly relationship with ourselves, In which we accept our limits to be able to be who we are without being afraid of what they are going to say, so it has a great relation with security.
I would also say that self-esteem is empathy with ourselves, knowing that we are that child who grew up one day and that we have to accept and help, but be careful, never overprotect.
The pillars of a healthy and balanced self-esteem
Surely you have often experienced uncomfortable situations that have caused you discomfort. These situations often occur because of how the actions of others affect us, but in many others they are due to how you interpreted the stimuli that come to you from outside.
Concentrate on this for a moment and think about the image you have of yourself and above all ask yourself how others see you. If the answer to this has to do with a negative view of who you are, it would be good to rethink your self-esteem and read the advice I’m going to give you below.
As you can see I have prepared a series of tips or tricks that you can use to practice healthy self-esteem. I would like you to take them seriously so that I can make them happen. Without further ado I leave you with them, I hope they will be of use to you.
1. Understand the other knowing that we can not be understood
Many times we understand others, but other times they will bring us the opposite. this that does not mean that our opinion is worseSimply that we put ourselves below the opinion of others, when in reality our own is at the same height. Don’t underestimate your opinion!
2. Know how to be with ourselves:
Are you alone and feel abandoned? Can’t find your purpose? Well, that’s something that means you might have low self-esteem. To be happy to be with yourself, I recommend you learning new hobbies, meeting people or doing different projects.
3. Know how to say no
It is important not to have to say yes to everything. With this, you will know that you have your rights and that you can take the reins of your life. Say that you do not indicate your position and that you also chooseSo you will feel that you decide for yourself.
4. Be real
And I’m not talking about saying things without any kind of filter, I’m just talking about do things and decide according to your tastes. I want that every moment of the day, when you are with your friends, you can say your opinion without problem or fear of causing discomfort, always starting from education, obviously.
5. Respect for others and for oneself
Respect the other, but above all respect yourself. I want you to wake up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you will treat yourself well and you will have patience with you. The message we sent is important; at the end of the day, our voice is the one we hear the most throughout the day.
6. Have freedom and give freedom
And it has to do with your selfishness. You should be aware that the people around you have the right to choose their plans and you must have them too. It’s important to see how often it hurts us if our partner hatches a different plan or if our friend decides to take the liberty of logging off the phone for a few days. They have every right to do it and you have to accept it.
Have you ever tried to listen to the other person without speaking until they shut up? If you haven’t tried it, what are you waiting for? Many times we conduct a self-centered dialogue that does not generate anything positive in us. Stop looking at your navel and listen to others a little more, but of course without forgetting yourself.
8. Take care of our energy
We have little and we must be safe from energy vampires or toxic people. Never date someone you don’t feel like doing something with.
9. Not wanting to switch to the other and accept
Not everyone will love you, so you can’t change them. It is important that you simply choose who to open up with and who you may or may not be friends with.
10. Be responsible, don’t blame or punish us for what is happening.
Stop thinking you’re responsible for everything or doing a second read like I’m getting sick with my in-laws when you don’t even know it. Here you are responsible for talking to them and asking them how they are feeling and if what you did that day went wrong for them.
Learn to relate to yourself better
Very good advice is that always choose any action that involves positive feelings and it will increase your self-esteem.
Just think that you have to put the positive to attract the positive and especially count on the good deeds. But be careful: it is useless to think that you will do the positive and that you will then receive something; this is a mistake, it is called doing something in exchange for X and it will only lead to misunderstanding, if you do something, don’t do it to expect anything in return and then you will be able to have greater self-realization.
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my name is Javier Ares and more than dealing with depression, anxiety or partner issues in many patients, I am also a social skills specialist.
Please feel free to contact me through my WhatsApp or social media so I can start working on why you are having issues.