The twentieth can be seen as a vital period full of opportunities. Especially if we compare it to other ages, we can think of it as a moment of youth, energy, pleasure and / or experimentation in the absence of responsibilities of late adulthood (children, mortgages …).
However, so-called “Millennials” (born between 1981 and 1999) don’t always feel as positive emotions as one might expect in this scenario.
What is the salon crisis?
American psychologist Abby Wilner and journalist Alexandra Robbins coined the term “living room crisis” in his book of the same name, published in 2001.
Both of these terms refer to the state of confusion and feelings of being lost and trapped that can appear in your 20s and lead to rethink your way of life, Including changes in friendships, couples and vocations.
Why can we go through a crisis when we turn 25?
Economic and social uncertainty, awareness of the difficulties to become independent from the family of origin and to be independent, possible disappointments in the face of immersion in the world of work, the differences in life that one believed to be at this age and to the one you really have, doubts about his own performance and skills in the face of social demands for perfection and achievement … These are some of the aspects that have been linked to a crisis in reaching the stage between the aged 25 and 30 years old.
The society we live in, highly publicized and exposed on social networks, has implemented models of “perfect life” accessible 24 hours a day just have a cell phone with an internet connection. We have role models on how to dress, how to style our hair, how our body should be, how we should have fun, what we should eat, where we should work and where we should travel to be accepted and considered successful. .
This can lead to a lot of pressure, which we can deal with better later in life. In fact, there are studies that have confirmed that the presence of emotions of negative affect (anxiety, sadness, stress, anxiety, etc.) is more prominent in young people than in older ones.
What are the key aspects of the trade fair crisis?
Here are the typical signs and symptoms of this psychological phenomenon:
1. The search for a perfect job
Studies have shown that young people are particularly focused on achieving a perfect work situation. This includes finding new jobs, better paying, fewer hours, more status, better relationships with colleagues and less stress. This can lead to a continuous state of tension, anxiety and worry.
2. Awareness and participation in social and health problems
Experts agree that young people are very aware of the problems that exist in society and those with whom they will have to deal both economically, socially and even ecologically in the future.
It has also been pointed out that young people are aware of their own state of stress and try to reduce stress through specific activities such as yoga, meditation, going to the gym or just resting in bed for a while and sleeping. .
3. The hierarchy of independence
Compared to the elderly, studies suggest that twenty people place particular importance on their independence. This involves developing individual skills that allow autonomy at all levelsWhile running the risk of falling into extreme individuality.
Experts have found that Millennials describe personal relationships as an area to foster in achieving personal satisfaction less often than people in their 40s and 50s. Successful career seems to have become the priority over starting a family, Compared to previous generations. In addition, data shows that young people do not hang out or stay with their peers as much as one might expect and even compared to older people.
4. False spirituality
Studies have shown that interest in spiritual aspects (understood as the need to transcend and realize oneself) appears at older ages. In addition, they underline a current tendency to seek satisfaction in the material and fast aspects, when it is not ephemeral. This aspect contrasts with the spirituality which is based on constraining and deep aspects, and which can only be achieved in the long term.
In short, the crisis of 25 years (or of the living room) is more common than it seems a priori. It is linked to generational aspects, but also to the social, economic and ecological situation. of today’s world.
The form and duration of the transition to adulthood has changed in recent years and can lead to disappointments and frustrations if what we expect from our life does not match our reality. In addition, the lack of certainty, uncertainty and awareness of all the problems that will have to be faced in the future, can also influence the onset of a state of tension and anxiety.
Confronted with this, we can get stuck or we can try to resign this state of crisis as an opportunity to make the changes necessary to bring our lives closer to what we desire. Crises are the right time to rethink our priorities and values. In addition, in the light of studies, it may be particularly relevant to assess the extent to which one focuses on aspects of work, leaving for later relational aspects (whether around the couple, family or friends. ) and aspects of spiritual types related to satisfaction. and self-actualization.