When undergoing therapy, it is clear that it is because he is in a complicated situation that he does not know how to manage on his own and asks for help to obtain it. Therefore, it is assumed that the person is generally receptive to this change and wishes to go through this transition to greater well-being. But even though there are things that happen during therapy that can be better managed. These details can speed up or slow down the therapeutic process.
Tips for when you go to therapy
Then I will cash in several ideas and advice that can help you in your therapy and in the relationship with your therapist.
1. Therapy is teamwork
You have the information and the therapist has the tools, I don’t want the psychologist to do your part, or try to do his part. Often there are things that are not explained in therapy because the person directly calls them irrelevant or unimportant and sometimes they are essential to getting to the bottom of the problem. So try not to record information for your psychologist, anything you tell him about yourself can be helpful so he can help you and get a better idea of how to manage your symptoms. The psychologist is not a fortune teller, you have the keys even if you don’t know it.
In the same way do not pretend to have full control over the therapy, the psychologist knows how to help you, and so let yourself be guided in some things or do not want to solve everything yourself, he knows that there are things that you cannot be alone and will accompany you on the journey.
2. Therapy guides you, but no one can come your way
It refers to the previous point, but it is important. The psychologist will not or should not make important decisions for you, Or tell yourself what to do, just guide yourself to draw your own conclusions and answers to your questions.
3. Change can be scary, even if it’s something you want
As hard as it is to figure this out because we are going through a difficult time at some point, if we have had a problem for a long time, we have also developed a habit and a mental structure around it. Even if someone hates being sad and depressed all day long, this can be their comfort zone for years to come, so even if you look forward to it, breaking up with it will suddenly produce vertigo. You have to understand these types of defense mechanisms, respect them and give them their time so that they can give way and the changes are made gradually and in an acceptable way.
4. Not everything will change and improve
It’s very exciting to see me move forward and every day gets better a bit. But unfortunately, this is usually not the case. The most common is to move forward a bit and back up a bit. I take 3 steps and back 2, ahead of 5 and less than 3. It is part of the process of being well and we have to rely on that so that when it happens we don’t collapse and we can move on.
5. Only the one who gives up fails
Persistence and patience with ourselves are essential to be able to continue therapy, which is usually difficult and to be able to overcome what brought us there.
6. Starting therapy does not mean that I am faulty or that I have anything wrong.
Just as a person may not know everything and when they have a breakdown in the bathroom they call the plumber, there are some things that just having them too close to us is not easy for us to deal with. Everyone has problems, Deaths of painful parents, events that may have affected their lives … Asking for help to be able to deal with this sort of thing, can save a lot of suffering and of course is a sign of great strength because I am ready to change, learn and improve by facing my own ghosts repeatedly.
7. Things that happen to me are important to me
We know that there are people who have suffered a lot in life and who have experienced very difficult situations, and sometimes we do not have the right to complain just because we have not had these difficult experiences. But the emotional wounds we all have have hurt each of us and have affected us in one way or another, and we recognize its importance. it can help us open up to therapy and dig deeper without judging what is happening to us.
For example, sometimes in therapy people say that their parents overprotected them, and that has meant a lot of worthlessness or feeling like kids as adults, which makes them difficult to make decisions or to themselves. feel secure in the face of everyday problems; but at the same time they say that they cannot complain, because their parents did not beat them or punish them harshly. This is true, but their wounds are others that affect them, and each can and should deal with theirs.
I hope these little keys will help each of you in any therapy process you may be undertaking in the future. Consistency is a virtue, and when something hurts, all you have to do is fight until it stops hurting.