As we commented in our article last month where we talk about the first principle to be able to have a full life, this month we will talk about the second principle; acceptance.
You can only aspire to internal transformation when you accept yourself exactly as you are.
The change only comes after the total acceptance of our Being. To change the way you think, feel, act, you must also accept others, the world, and all your past experiences, even the most dramatic. The change is not made, it is allowed to happen.
What is acceptance?
Acceptance is the act of accepting the world, ourselves, others, and most importantly, the unpredictability of life.
It’s common to think that life isn’t fair and horrible things happen to good people.. That is true! The fact that life is unpredictable and that we do not have full control over what happens to us creates imbalances and anxieties that are difficult to face.
It is not always easy to live this principle of acceptance. A person who accepts himself, with his past, his qualities and his faults, will surely go much further in life, and will be more likely to achieve his goals, as well as to serve as an inspiration to the people close to him.
If the person does not accept the qualities, flaws and limitations that they have, they are fragmented.. Change is vital and inevitable in the life of every individual, it is implicit in the acceptance of ourselves and the world. Only in this way is a full life obtained.
Some Truths That Are Difficult to Accept – What are yours?
The truth is liberating. However, at an early stage, living by the truth can generate unhealthy thoughts and deadly behaviors:
My partner is dead … It doesn’t make sense to live. I’m going to kill myself. I feel bad, in pain, helpless, lonely, incomplete … I am going to isolate myself at home. I don’t want to see anyone!
I have a terminal illness. I will die. I hate my God! I’m sorry for myself, I feel fear, anxiety, envy for the health of others. I became arrogant, rebellious, in conflict with the doctors and nurses.
I am suffering from financial instability … I will lose my house and my car, I will take my children out of school, I cannot pay my debts … it’s better to kill myself … feeling powerless to control the situation. I am frustrated and scared! I’m going to bet my latest edits on some games to see if there is any luck, if that gives me any help. I won’t pay taxes. I’ll run away!
I’m addicted. I will never be able to stop! No one understands me and they are all against me. I feel empty and incomplete. I don’t belong anywhere. I’m afraid. I’ll use another dose to self-destruct.
“Nothing is permanent except change”
Heraclitus’ famous phrase is based on the notion of eternal transformation. The difference of an accepted person, towards whom he is not accepted, is the readiness to change. Many of the frustrations and anxieties we face come from wanting to be what we are not. It is not possible to be happy and to feel complete without accepting yourself.
The accepted person has many more opportunities to be happy in their relationships AND in their profession, and will know how to manage their own internal conflicts. To live in acceptance is to be comfortable with yourself and others. It develops internal capacities. It is to live “here” and “now”. To live in acceptance is to be authentic.
Freedom is nothing more than to open our eyes to the world and to others and to close our ears to voices born of fear. It has to do with an old story.
Anyone who manages to accept life as it is will always have more talent to fight against any adverse circumstance.. Accepting our reality is nothing more than surrendering to the proof that there are things that cannot be changed. There are good things, there are bad things, but there is nothing we can do about it. In contrast, the positive only exists as opposed to the negative.
Acceptance is knowing that everything in life is always in constant motion. Assuming this reasoning is true, the need to control everything around us goes away, leading to less stress and anxiety.