Activating self-love: tips to empower it

Self-love shows the relationship you have with yourself. So that includes the extent to which you love yourself, the extent to which you reward yourself, trust your abilities, and accept yourself as a person.

Wanting to love yourself goes beyond good self-esteem. When you have self-love, you find a balance between your emotional state and your self-esteem.

    The importance of self-love

    Ask yourself for a moment: are you your friend or your enemy? Do you treat your friends or partner the same as you treat yourself? Do you suffer from psychological issues such as anxiety, depression, or emotional dependence?

    Unfortunately, lack of self-esteem is a common evil these days.. There are all kinds of psychological issues at all ages, and when that self-esteem is completely absent, it is common for thoughts of suicide to appear. It makes us see the great importance of loving ourselves, of treating ourselves with the affection and respect with which we would treat a good friend, even more so if we are going through a bad time.

    The good news is that this is not an irreparable problem, and lack of self-esteem has a solution. Here are some tips for not boycotting it and activating it.

    5 ways to self-boycott

    Let’s first take a look at the various processes by which your self-esteem deteriorates.

    1. Self-punishment and emotional dependence

    When you love yourself, learn from your mistakes, and encourage yourself to keep going, don’t whip yourself with a whip by blaming and torturing yourself for everything you’ve done wrong. It will not make you know more, but will destroy you gradually. If you are wrong, at least you have tried, you are brave.

    It’s as important to make mistakes as it is to celebrate your successes and be proud of yourself., When achieving a goal and for example, celebrate and reward. I recommend that you don’t make the mistake of depending on others for positive feedback, but see it as a supplement to your own self-recognition. Take charge of and don’t turn this responsibility over entirely to others.

    2. Self-criticism and complaint

    When you want you talk in a kind tone and when it comes to criticizing, you do so in a constructive, non-destructive way. We can’t avoid going through situations we don’t like or having difficulties, but we can change the way we react to them.

    I recommend that you accept the situation and think about what a good friend would say to you about what you think you did wrong. Also, be aware of the way you speak so that you don’t give rise to the act of insulting, the constant whining, and that crooked voice that can be within you.

    3. The act of mistrust

    When you want to, you pay attention to getting to know yourself, with curiosity and patience, and you have a vision of how far you think you can go, setting goals that you think fit your abilities.

    It does not mean that you are always right, but that you are struggling, learn from the mistake, and readjust your goal. Try to live moments that can enrich your life, without running any real danger. Remember that trust makes the teacher. If you are suspicious of yourself, you are likely to be alert to the mistake and, as a result, run away from the goals you can achieve.

      4. Comparison with others

      We have qualities that define us and we use to describe our physique, our personality and our behavior. When you want to, you accept its qualities and you are freed from those cultural and subjective norms, such as beauty. You know that each person is different, neither better nor worse. What you are looking for is to feel good about yourself, because everyone has their own rhythms and attributes that make them who they are.

      If you frequently compare yourself to others, both to come out victorious and to get hurt, you will probably feel like you’ve climbed a roller coaster. depending on what those around you are or fashion brands.

      5. Narcissism and hatred

      Contrary to popular belief, love has limits, both for oneself and for others.. There has to be a balance between what you want and what you expect from others. When there is an imbalance due to an excess of self-love and a deficit of love for others, narcissism and hatred arise.

      The narcissist believes himself to be superior or better than others (egoism), thinks he has more rights than others (egoism) and believes that everything revolves around him (egocentrism). When you want to, you end up walking away from narcissistic people, in search of generosity, assertiveness, and reciprocity.

      3 steps to loving yourself and staying active

      Now that we know what can keep you from having great self-love, let’s take a look at what you can do to improve it on a daily basis.

      1. Have a good time

      You may already have them and go unnoticed, so it’s important to pay attention to them. I recommend that you start with something simple. Here are a few examples: listening to a song you love, singing and dancing (no matter how you do it), enjoying a meal or taking a relaxing bath. Remember that just as you treat others well, you deserve to be treated well..

      2. Savor this pleasant moment

      One idea might be to make it last for at least a minute and focus all of your senses on the moment that you are enjoying.

      3. Remember this pleasant moment

      You can save it in your memory, share it with friends and even write it down. I invite you to write down each experience, achievement, strength or moment of splendor, and go-save in what will be “the jar of good memories”. This way you can continue to discover your path to happiness.

      Author: Belén González García, health psychologist, member of the Mentavio team. Psychologist from the Complutense University of Madrid, graduated in health and collegiate M-28477, expert in psychotherapy Brief strategic therapy on the way to Palo Alto and holder of a master’s degree in eating disorders and obesity from EMU.

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