The answer to the title question is “absolutely yes”. Let’s see why.
We try to go back in time and visualize ourselves in school, where we have been told that humans are the “only rational animal” indicating that we are at the highest point of the evolutionary scale. Why ?, Because we have a consciousness and an exclusive cerebral cortex of people that allows us to think.
Yes, all of this is true: our cortex or cerebral cortex, which is characteristic of human beings, is what allows us to analyze, plan, deduce, anticipate and, ultimately, have intellectual capacities that we have made it reach, evolutionarily speaking, as far as we are today.
But … what about the other word that defines our species: “animal”? Indeed: whether we like it or not, we are animals, especially mammals and, more precisely, those mammals whose offspring need more care, protection and time to develop into old age. adult.
I this is where we find our emotional component, To which one apparently does not attach too much importance: “That of the emotions is a matter for psychologists!” And you also hear things like … “Emotions are a woman’s business!” And what about the terrible “standard” of “men don’t cry”?
But we say apparently because there are trades (Marketing, Advertising or Sales) in which human emotions are extraordinarily well known and we study what mechanisms move us in our daily life, to use them and sell us what in these moments contact: a car brand, a trip, a clothing brand, a mobile phone … a specific lifestyle and even vital values and priorities.
We underestimate the emotional
This reflection on the great weight of the emotional component for the human being is not exaggerated.. It is true that in our westernized society (ours, where we live and therefore the one that influences us on a daily basis), we don’t say much about it, at least obviously. This gives the feeling that while in certain environments, situations, social gatherings and media may be the subject of attention, we must recognize that they are not normally considered essential to life or important.
What are the consequences of this distance, of this “not to lend on purpose” to our emotional aspect? Let’s see:
Not to mention them (like they don’t exist or don’t matter so much) it is difficult to attend and therefore be aware that we are living them.
When you don’t take care of it, it is even more difficult to identify them, to give them a name when we experience it.
By not identifying them we can’t understand them nor, of course, handle or channel.
And so when they get intense (or downright boring, even disabling), it’s really hard to “live” them.
And, now yes, we already have the blockage, the anxiety, the discomfort or more or less intense suffering on the psychological level …
The importance of emotions
of course we don’t need to go to extreme discomfort or psychological disturbances to show the importance of our emotional life. In addition, we just need to take a look at our daily life, of what is happening to us right now, to realize how much our emotional state weighs in order to “value” it as a good or a bad thing, which we are causing. discomfort or well-being (to a greater or lesser extent, of course).
Could examples look like this ?: “I don’t know how to tell my head … I keep thinking about it and it generates an overflow”; “It makes me nervous to go to lunch with my parents and I don’t know what’s going on, because they get along very well with me …”; “I don’t want to go with Sara, but I can’t do anything else, because it would be very bad for her not to be”; “I’m wrong with Pablo but I don’t even know what’s wrong with him”; “Everyone tells me that I have everything and I notice a kind of dissatisfaction …”.
The emotions we are feeling right now they have a decisive influence on the positive or negative appreciation of the fact or situation in which we are involved, By giving it a greater or lesser degree of severity …. And, of course, the emotions influence a very high percentage (without wanting to put numbers, but let’s say more, much more than 50% ….) for solve these problems, to answer them.
In short, emotion is an inevitable component or human dimension, fortunatelyOtherwise we would not be able to react to any event in everyday life. Hence the extraordinary importance of taking care of it so that it accompanies us in our favor and does not go against us.
With sight, it is already proven that we are emotional beings. And now what? Without intending to offer a manual on emotional management, and being very simplistic, I allow myself to make some recommendations:
1. Identify what is going on
At the first moment, when you start to feel a certain discomfort, a certain feeling of discontent, stop for a second to try to identify how you are feeling: It’s anger, it’s anger, it’s discomfort, it’s anguish, it’s grief, …. are they all together?
2. Take your time
Wait to do or say anything! Wait, don’t react immediately to everything that caused you to feel (I know it costs …).
3. Try to understand what bothered you
Did it hurt you because you interpret it as disrespectful? Do you think there is no solution to what has been asked of you? Do you see this as an irrecoverable loss? There are a thousand reasons, as many as people … Depending on what you find, you can find an answer that is suitable for the situation you have been through.
How easy it sounds, right? Well, really no, it isn’t. We are used to reacting immediately to what happens to us, so from everything we have seen before, we do not realize what we are going through or, let alone, we know how to cope – to learn to lead our emotional world so that this is not what governs us.
We take care of our emotions. How? ‘Or’ What? Identify them, welcome them (they are all functional, you just need to know how to care for them), make friends with them and, well through contact with people who have had similar experiences, through psychological counseling, courses of emotional or personal development, bibliography or, if necessary, psychotherapy, we channel and manage this fundamental component of our being that makes our life easier.