These are lockdown days we all usually think about when this ends, what we will do once we can start to “normally” come out. Governments speak of a “gradual and phased opening”.
In VillaRamadas, we did a study on the stages we went through during childbirth and how we should prepare for “the return to normal”. We are talking about 6 phases, a first phase of denial, a second phase of negotiation, a third phase of acceptance, a fourth phase of responsibility, a fifth phase of love and a last phase of gratitude.
The psychological phases of confinement
In this article, we will talk about each of the psychological phases of confinement, knowing that at this time we are in the fourth phase.
First phase: denial
Since December 2019, we have been hearing about a virus that affects China, more specifically Wuhan, located in the central area of this country.
From Europe we barely heard what was going on without giving it the utmost importance which is a problem that “they don’t compete with us”. This problem seems to be getting out of hand in China. Europe remains safe as the virus does not appear to be spreading outside of China.
On January 31, 2020, the virus arrives in Italy (Lombardy) and Spain (more precisely on the island of La Gomera). The moment no action is taken it is still considered a virus like the flu, there is no reason to be alarmed or react to this situation.
Meanwhile, we live in a state of denial, we consider that what happened to others cannot happen to us. Our OJ just thinks that; we are different, we are stronger, this is only one case, it will be temporary, and so on.
Second phase: negotiation
We see and hear so much in the news that we started to think: will this be what is serious ?, is this what is so dangerous? But of course, that we only considered it when we started hearing the first cases in Europe. He arrived in Italy, maybe he will arrive in Spain, or not. We are far away, it will not reach my province, my city …
Although we do not yet accept reality, we are only heard talking about the same subject. And always with the same comments. But … if only about 3,000 died in China, Europe, we are better in terms of health and life expectancy, nothing will happen. More people are dying from the flu. Bah! It’s all a lie, I’m not going on a trip to watch football in Italy. Surely nothing will happen to me.
Third phase: acceptance
On February 21, 2020, Italy is closing 11 municipalities. On March 8, Italy declared a nationwide state of alarm. On March 14, 2020, Spain accepts the problem and while Italy declares a state of alarm. And so on with all the countries of the European Union and after the world.
The virus is a reality, we believe in the problem. We have a problem and we must act. We accept it and react.
We started to take action so that we can fight with what we haveThere is talk everywhere about viruses and how we should act to prevent infection. In addition, several measures are taken; be able to solve the problem of the health crisis, help people called at risk / vulnerable to promote hygiene and disinfection measures, etc.
Fourth phase: responsibility
They ask us for responsibility, and we give it. We stayed at home, just went out to buy some food. When we left, we followed the rules set by the government; social distancing, gloves, masks, personal hygiene.
The government, thanks to our good work because everything seems to be improving, allows us to go out with our children. We are preparing to make them understand the importance of complying with the rules as well. From an early age, they understand that they have to be responsible.
It arrives on Sunday April 26 and we go out with our children and see that in most towns, villages etc. the rules are being followed. We are responsible, they trusted us and we have shown that we can do it. We start to have a feeling beyond the responsibilityWe are entering the fifth phase of this process.
Fifth phase: love
We don’t want to be infected and we don’t want to be infected either, we no longer think only of ourselves or our loved ones, we think, We want the good for everyone. We reflect on what families who have lost their loved ones may have suffered. We think of the professionals who lost their lives to help the citizens of our country.
We feel love, but a love that is not just based on expecting something in return for someone else close to us. This love extends to people we’ve never seen nor heard of them.
We started wanting to go to work, we love our job, we love our job. We start to think that we are productive and able to do whatever we set out to do. Life is a challenge and we do it. We love each other, we love each other as people, it increases our self-esteem. We smiled like never before.
Sixth phase: gratitude
We have not yet passed the fifth phase, but we know that on this return to “normality” we will be grateful to you. We will be grateful to be alive, to embrace our family, our friends, to go to work and to be able to see our colleagues again.
Now seeing the sea, the mountains, walking, are deeds that we have done but have not enjoyed in the same way that we will. Our life changed, we went from a state where we did whatever we wanted, without restrictions, without confinement, to a state where we learned to view life with enthusiasm, joy, gratitude.
We have changed and with that we have grown as people, as a family, as a society. We are now the privileged who can count on everything around us and who know how to appreciate in ways that we did not know we could before. We will now look with gratitude at everything around us. We have reached a state of wholeness.