One of the most common issues we see is self-esteem. Several times, we think we have got this problem under control, but it has not been since self-esteem is as complex as it is fundamental to taking care of our mental health.
How does self-esteem take hold?
The basis of all self-esteem is based on our beliefs and values. Therefore, we should focus more on what we want for ourselves and not on what we should be, because many times we try to please each other by acting or behaving like a person that we are not, Losing part of our essence, of our authenticity.
This point seems fundamental to us, because when we try to be something that we are not, we end up paying a very high cost for our mental health because it is constantly acting or wanting to be in a way that we are not. , we can get to give up.
Self-esteem was built from our earliest childhood. Social relations, our education, our learning matrices influence its construction. It is modified and shaped, depending on the environment, the links we establish with others, so that it is dynamic and changing through the different stages of our life. Therefore, my experiences have also changed.
Many times people find it difficult to identify this phenomenon and come to consult for symptoms such as anxiety or depression, which mask negative self-esteem without the patient realizing it.
It is important to pay attention to how we feel, because this is what has accompanied us throughout our lives both with ourselves and in our relationships with others.
How to detect these problems?
Some of the symptoms that can help us achieve low self-esteem are thoughts like, “I’m not sure about myself”, “I don’t like it”, “I don’t connect with others the way I would like to “. , “I feel guilty”, “I envy the lives of others”, “I am always aware of my weaknesses”, etc.
Self-confidence is essential to contribute to our healthy development in all orders: Work, personal and family life, in my soul-searching … If I didn’t reinforce my own belief, who did?
Self-esteem as a necessity
When we talk about self-esteem, we are basing ourselves on Maslow’s pyramid; this is a motivation theory that tells us what motivates human behavior. It is made up of 5 levels organized hierarchically according to the needs we are going through.
1. Biological needs
These are vital necessities for survival, basic biological processes (Breathe, eat, sleep, drink water, feed). These are the most basic of the hierarchy, when these are satisfied, we move to a second level.
2. Security needs
We all need to have a sense of security in our lives. When we talk about security we mean personal security, physical security, job and resource security, family security, health security. We focus on feeling protected in various aspects of our life. This level is linked to the expectations we have.
3. Affiliate requirements
These are social needs. Here are our emotional ties, our social relationships. At this point, empathy plays a key role.
This need is constantly present in our daily life when the desire to get married, to have children, a job that we love, social acceptance, etc. appears.
4. Recognition needs
It has to do with how we value ourselves and how we value others.. The trust and security we have, our own acceptance.
This is when we talk about self-esteem, feeling good about yourself, having a good self-image, recognizing and valuing our successes. When these needs are not met, we feel inferior and worthless, and low self-esteem arises.
5. Self-realization needs
This is the highest and most different level of need this is where our spiritual and moral development lies, our purpose in life, Our potential to lead a more fulfilling life and achieve happiness. It is the most unique and subjective need of each person; to achieve this, you must feel good about yourself, value yourself and, above all, accept yourself.
The pillars of self-esteem
To deepen this question of self-esteem, we recommend that you start to know us better, take a moment and think about how we feel. Are we happy with ourselves? Are we doing what we love? Are we happy with the life we are building? Would we change anything? Wrong beliefs on our part only lead to lack of confidence and negative self-image.
There are three fundamental pillars for working on self-esteem: At the cognitive level “what I think”, at the emotional level “what I feel”, at the behavioral level “what I do”. These three plans are essential for creating good self-esteem because it is important that they are in harmony.
How to improve it?
We recommend several ways to increase your self-esteem:
On the one hand, do not stay in the past, as this cannot continue to condemn you in the present and less in the future.
On the other hand, believe in yourself, in your abilities, in who you are, in what you think. You are the protagonist of your life and you write the script and decide what the next scenes in your life will look like and who will accompany you.
Don’t mistreat yourself, don’t harass yourself, if you don’t like something change it, but don’t stay in it punishing over and over again.
Finally, celebrate your accomplishments, no one else knows how difficult it has been for you to reach your goals and objectives in life. Give yourself the value you deserve over and over again by thinking positively because you are worth so much.
Learn to love yourself
We’re here to help you learn more about your self-esteem. For any questions do not hesitate to contact PSiCOBAi.