False self-confidence: the heavy mask of disappointment

In today’s article, I outlined the concept of false self-confidence.

It is common to talk about the importance of self-esteem. Feeling good about yourself is fundamental for yourself and for relating to others. However, psychologists and coaches also refer to self-confidence (self-efficacy), Aware of the relationship it has with self-esteem.

False Self-Confidence: The Difference Between Self-Esteem And Self-Confidence

To better understand the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem, I will first talk about self-concept or self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is what a person believes or thinks about themselves.

Most experts interpret self-concept as an integrated set of personal factors, essentially three: cognitive (thoughts), affective (feelings), and conative (behaviors), which, if identified individually, could be classified as next: the first factor, self concepts correct; the second factor like self-esteem; and the third like self-efficacy or self-confidence. Before we talk about false self-confidence, we will focus on self-efficacy.


Self-efficacy is the appreciation of the abilities that one possesses and on which one focuses beliefs of having the ability and the ability to succeed in a given context. Whereas self-esteem is the general feeling of worth of a person as a whole and refers to self-esteem.

People with a high level of self-confidence they usually set high standards of success. They may not always achieve their goals or their self esteem may not be as high, but they never give up, they always continue to trust themselves and their abilities. This confidence in one’s own abilities allows one not to sink in the face of failure and to move forward in accomplishing one’s own goals and objectives.

While not all researchers agree, there is some consensus that self-confidence is the same as self-efficacy. Albert Bandura, a professor at Stanford University, was the first psychologist to speak about self-efficacy in the 1970s. For Bandura, self-confidence is “the belief that a person has the ability to perform with. success a behavior “necessary to produce a given behavior. result “.

The importance of being realistic

Self-confidence, therefore, has to do with realistic expectations of what one can really do to achieve a certain goal. It is an internal state which implies a real knowledge of the difficulties to be overcome, of the own resources to do it and, from there, of the authentic possibilities that one has to succeed in certain aspects of his life.

The most important factor in self-confidence is not to blindly believe that you will achieve all the goals that you set for yourself and that you will never make mistakes, but the person has the conviction, objectively supported, that he has sufficient resources to be able to overcome adversity then point out the mistakes that can inevitably be made. It is important to build true self-confidence and not fall into the mistake of false self-confidence.

False Self-Confidence: What Is It?

As I have pointed out, self-confidence is an internal state characterized by a realistic conviction that is effective in dealing with the demands of life, and it is not just simple verbal manifestations that one will achieve all of this. which is proposed. It is not a question of appearing optimistic all the time, without valuing, in any case, the real possibilities that one has and the accessibility to certain external factors that will be present.

I have already commented in the article “Personal development: 5 reasons for self-reflection” the importance of an objective analysis of the situation and not to be carried away by “forebodings” without any control. When one adopts an “open door” attitude that does not reflect the mistrust and worry often experienced, making triumphalist and optimistic demonstrations unfounded, this is called false self-confidence. This behavior, probably rewarding at the time of doing it, makes the person feel good thinking like this, but this behavior can lead to confuse reality and fantasy.

False self-confidence helps produce self-deception that allows the person to escape the true internal state of self-confidence which in many cases lurks behind the “mask”. This form of avoidance, false self-confidence, can have serious consequences for self-confidence, as it will become weaker and weaker and further and further away from reality.

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