The current confinement situation seems to be coming to an end, but … what protocols and psychological hygiene measures should families follow in these turbulent times?
Confinement and families: how to deal with negative emotions?
The professionals at the Atenea de Palma de Mallorca center help us shed light on this issue.
1. How do you think detention can affect families?
We live in a situation unknown to most of us, new measures, a different situation, many unanswered questions, uncertainty … All of this affects our emotional, psychological and mental stability.
In one day, we go through many different emotions: frustration, anger, bewilderment, sadness, insecurity, fear, anguish, joy, hope, love … all lead us to express ourselves incorrectly or desperately with those around us.
It is important to assume that confinement affects us on a personal level. All family members experience this uncontrolled mixture of emotions.
We should not be afraid if we have discussions or misunderstandings, with our partner, parents or children, about problems that had never caused us confrontations, it is normal. In this particular situation we live in, feelings intensify more, needs arise, we are less receptive and more sensitive.
2. In the context of a childless relationship, what do you think are the psychological and relational hygiene measures that should guide these quarantine days?
There are different couple profiles, depending on the routine they are used to:
Couples used to work together and spend many hours side by side. The current scenario has hardly changed for them. This couple profile is used to managing this time together, the individual getaways they could do before (meals with friends, walks on the beach, shopping …) can replace them with individual activities that relax them and relieve them of the pain. daily. stress. (relaxing baths, video calls with friends, reading that book you can never find time for ..)
Couples who work all day away from home and meet for dinner. The scenario they are currently experiencing is completely changed. If you are in this profile of a couple, it is important to increase communication based on feelings, that is, to express what we are feeling to avoid conflicts caused by misunderstandings. We must take advantage of this moment to get to know each other better and to take more advantage of the couple’s moments. prepare trips
Couples who could share moments throughout the day depending on the intensity of the work (breakfast together, lunch or dinner).
Whatever the profile of the couple, finding individual moments to disconnect and relax, talk more, communicate emotions and feelings and plan plans for the future, is the advice we give Atenea to couples in this regard. disparate times we live in.
3. How to develop a grieving process when it is not possible to have family gatherings to say goodbye to a loved one?
This point is, without a doubt, the most difficult and difficult thing that a human being has to go through.
There is no formula that avoids the pain and suffering for the loss of a loved one under unusual or sudden circumstances. We can only anticipate, speak from the heart with our family member, tell them that they are important to us, that we love them very much and that we need them.
It is important to be able to contact our loved ones and share with them the pain we feel.
Expression and sharing are the foundations to better face these difficult and difficult times.
4. From Athena, what resources or tools do you offer your patients to meet their needs, whether or not they are related to covid-19?
From Atenea, we are in contact with each of our patients. We offer you the resources and tools that adapt to each of your needs and requests. We offer Skype sessions, phone calls, messages …
Today more than ever, we must learn from this situation. Give more to those you want, slow down. To know enough, to fight against injustices, to value the little things that fill us, to love oneself, to apologize and to forgive.
We will get out of this! But if we do not learn anything, all our suffering and our efforts will have been in vain.