We all talk about balance, about having a healthy body to have a healthy mind, but there is something more; have a really strengthened mind. To become someone who, no matter how much he falls, gets up again strengthened by what has been learned, although this quality can also be seen in someone who cannot take it all or who is allowed to feel what he or she is. feels fearless.
To have a strong mind is not to be able to endure much suffering, but to be able to transform this suffering into something useful that invites us to overcome a problem and empowers us to do so. A mind prepared for adversity is one that allows us to stay focused on what matters despite adversity.
Habits that help keep a strong mind
If we are so stressed that we just don’t think, sleep, and survive, we gradually lose the ability to think clearly and decide on the actions we take. The “survival mode” is great for dealing with extreme situations, but the “calm mode” is better for being able to make decisions that allow us to get out of those difficult situations.
We talk a lot about good habits, but we don’t do much; they are part of those New Year’s resolutions, after the holidays or after a step of excess. Why is it so difficult for us to develop healthy habits that allow us to have a strong mind? It’s easy to blame laziness, lack of energy, or routine, and maybe those are the causes, but focusing on that and just blaming ourselves for things only takes energy away from us.
What you need is be clear about what you want, know why you want it, know the obstacles that prevent you from moving forward and commit to your goal convinced of its importance.
The first healthy habit to work on is knowing how to overcome challenges, it’s the first stone that provides a solid foundation on which to build other new habits. I propose this three-step method: cleanse, engage and act.
1. Cleanse your mind, find a calm mind
It is common to hear sentences like “what I want is to be calm, I would be happy if I did not have this problem, when that happens I can rest” … These sentences make us see that we we feel the situation is not under our control.
So the first thing is to know that to meet our desires or our needs we must run away from unreachable dreams or want to change what is not up to us. We need to sincerely listen and be realistic with what we want and what we can control.
By separating what we can control from what we cannot, we stop fighting for what is not in our hands and focus on what is, we take back control and stop feeling powerless. We cannot control life or its ups and downs. It is therefore about being strong in the face of adversity; if you strengthen your mind, you will see obstacles as a surmountable challenge and not as another problem that weighs on you and robs you of energy or keeps you from being well. If we don’t have a suitable external environment, we will have to work more internally to achieve that inner calm or peace.
So we see that we need to first deepen our purpose and see what things make us feel good about ourselves i.e. calm down, make us feel strong, etc. Write the answer to this question: What do you need or want to accomplish and what are the things that, when you do them, make you feel that way?
2. Engage in what you want
Once we know what we need to get what we want and identify the obstacles we come to value the strength of our desire, the importance of it. We start from the assumption that we will take as true that “if you do not strive for it, it will be that you will not want so much”. We decide to put all our potential at the service of our desires.
You will be able to overcome vicious circles, negative or desperate thoughts … How? Write down step by step what you would do or should do to get what you want. Decide to assume that there is no other option because this is what you want and no one else can stop you. Aim for anything that hinders you or prevents you from moving forward, think about how to overcome each obstacle.
3. Act with internal consistency to have peace
Some of the conflicts in our daily life are internal; when we do not live as we want, we do not feel as we want to feel, we do not do what we want to do … this conflict, internal or external, is an alert that invites us to fight for what we want .
There are circumstances in which living consistently becomes difficult for us, and if we cannot resolve those circumstances, conflict arises.
So we see that after being clear about what we want and committing to it, by choosing a path centered on what we want and can achieve, new options open up to us. This allows us to act, we will take measures to have peace of mind by acting not in automatic mode, but in phase with what we want to achieve or how we want to live. It doesn’t stop life from giving us setbacks, but it does allow us to have a strong mind to face the obstacles that come our way.
If you are in the middle of a storm and you need to make decisions or to change something, look for a space, a place, a time to think calmly and start working on yourself; so find the strength to decide to make the changes you need to have peace of mind and be able to cope better with difficulties.