What do you look like How do you feel? What do you think others think of you? Do you think you can achieve what you set out to do? Do you think you want enough?
If the answers to these questions were negative, we probably need to develop healthy self-esteem, Which is nothing more than a positive and constructive assessment of ourselves.
Having good self-esteem is the basis of self-confidence. This will allow us to face challenges with more confidence, adopt an attitude towards a happier life and develop it in a more adaptive way on a daily basis. So what can we do to learn to accept ourselves?
Self-esteem is built from an early age on the basis of the affirmation and appreciation we receive from authority figures, such as our parents, teachers or leaders; and their development will influence the way we deal with situations in adulthood: our social relationships, our challenges, etc.
It is likely that in times of confusion and adversity, such as a failed relationship or the loss of a job, make us doubt our ability to recover and rise to the surface, And so can be affected.
However, and despite the fact that self-esteem has been built from childhood, you can work on it as an adult to come to love and feel better about yourself.
What must you do to accept yourself?
When self-esteem is not worked on, images such as depressive symptoms, eating disorders, anxiety, and social phobia, among others, can appear. Do you want to start training her? If so, take note and keep reading …
1. Get to know yourself
Do mental and behavioral research identify your skills and efforts and write them down. Make a list of everything you’ve accomplished and make yourself proud. Save this list nearby for moments of questioning. Plus, recognize your main weaknesses and challenge yourself to work on them.
We all have them even if we don’t show them to others. However, don’t be obsessed with perfection; his search is nothing more than a lack of acceptance.
2. Address your worries and achieve your dreams
We saw that validation is important to develop good self-esteem and good acceptance. We all have dreams, so challenge yourself and work every day to make them come true.
When you feel that you are reaching them slowly, you will feel that you are outdoing yourself with the effort and you will have a good reason to validate yourself. Shake things up and don’t get carried away by “everything that is going on” or for a long time, so think about yourself, even your family or friends. He recalls this line from Will Smith in his movie In Search of Happiness: “Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. If you have a dream, protect it.”
3. Don’t compare yourself to others, compare yourself
Do not try to copy a life that is not yours or a person that is not you. You are you, and the other is the other; you have your time and the other has his. We are all born and built from a different mold and with different circumstances; the person you need to compare yourself with is yourself. To do this, always look back on your lifeline and remind yourself of all the progress you have made.
4. Take care of your internal dialogue
People with low self-esteem often carry an enemy inside that keeps sabotaging them – with verbalizations such as’ you can’t ‘,’ you can’t ‘,’ you will hurt, no. ‘don’t try’ … Put your thoughts in your favor and build an ally that tells you “you can do it,” “try it and if it doesn’t go well nothing happens, you will learn and eventually you will get it.”
Control the way you talk to yourself, generating more positive and adaptive speech so that your emotions are more enjoyable and you achieve the goals you set for yourself.
5. Flatter yourself and flatter others too
Strengthen yourself positively when you reach your goals, However minimal. Pick people in your circle of trust and ask them for feedback on your plans and challenges. As we said, to build self-esteem, it’s also important that important people in our environment validate us.
6. Strengthen your talent
If we put a bird in a cage for the rest of its life, do you think that if we let it go, it will be able to fly? Therefore, develop what is good for you. It doesn’t mean that you don’t engage in what you love or stop doing things you love just because you “don’t feel right.”
However, it is important that when we identify skills in ourselves, whether it is playing a certain sport or cooking, it is important to take the time for this activity to develop and feel good when we are doing it. let’s practice.
7. Take care of the environment around you
He tries to bring together people who trust them and achieved their goals. Observe their language, their way of communicating and their behavior and try to make a role model for you. Stay away or try to limit certain conversations with people who don’t like you and are a bad influence. Remember the message
8. Give yourself time
The process of developing healthy self-esteem takes time and patience. Don’t despair or throw in the towel when you’re wrong: he learns to see error as an opportunity for growth and not as a failure. We are human beings and we are all wrong. When people are successful, we only see their success; but the effort, dedication and failures are also there, but not so easily observable.
Do we feel strong in the face of adversity or in pursuing our goals?
Self-esteem is like a muscle: if we don’t exercise, it can atrophy. Do we want our abs to be our only strong muscle? Loving yourself must be the greatest strength we haveBecause it will be our ally to feel happier with ourselves and in general with the life that we have built thanks to it. Love yourself.