How to reconcile professional life with being a mother? Maternity and professional development

Motherhood, like fatherhood, means going through a process of very profound life transformation. When you are a mother, your priorities, your belief system, and even your values ​​change.. Your life turns into a constant gift, many conflicts dissolve in you and you surrender in a totally renewing way.

However, this experience, which in itself implies personal development, is faced with another need: to continue your professional development. Knowing how to harmonize maternity and professional life is one of the most current and necessary objectives..

Depending on the country and the culture, this can be easier or more complex. In Spain, and much more in Latin America, it can be very complex. If we want to do something totally different, it’s about living a change process in which you develop the personal skills necessary to harmonize these two aspects so important and necessary in your life.

    Maternity and professional development

    One of the big limiting ideas about motherhood is to consider that once you are a working mom, your goals or goals are over. as we have considered. It is a limiting vision that ends up generating frustration over the years.

    Being a mother or father and continuing to develop our professional life and living in line with our goals is absolutely possible and necessary. In fact, it is the best example we can set for our sons and daughters.

    Problem is, nobody taught us how to do it. Obviously, this is a bigger problem today for women than for men (hence the article focuses on motherhood) due to the increased demand for babies and the labor system itself. .

    Over the past 10 years, I have accompanied as a psychologist and coached people from up to 10 different countries to experience their change processes. From 2015 (oddly enough, just when I learned that I was going to be a father) I started to support more and more mothers or pre-mothers who had just this goal: to learn to develop the necessary skills. to continue to grow professionally without was at all a fact incompatible with enjoying motherhood even with a lot of time of daily dedication. Precisely for this reason and having already accompanied so many mothers or pre-mothers, I wanted to write this very special article.

    I decided to leave the conclusions to you in this video. Give it a game!

    The process of adapting to the new reality: being a mother and working

    what which leads to a living motherhood to the fullest, Give the best care and the best example to your sons and daughters and at the same time develop and grow professionally? These are always personal skills. We are people and depending on how you make decisions, organize your time, plan, manage time, and most importantly how you understand and deal with your emotions, it will all turn out.

    The skills most needed in this case are mainly three: productivity, communication and above all emotion management.

    1. Productivity

    Productivity does not mean that you “produce more”. Productivity is actually how you manage resources (time is part of that) to get the results you need. It is not more productive who produces more, but who knows how to produce what is needed with the fewest possible resources and in the shortest possible time.

    As you develop your productivity, you will learn to reduce stress, save time, make more conscious decisions, improve your personal relationships (with the work team or with users or clients) and all of this will translate into the time and quality of the time you spend with your children.

      2. Communication

      Communication is the skill that it allows you to truly connect with each other, empathize, set boundaries and create collaboration. We generally understand communication because it usually conveys information, but it is much more than that. Communication is the transmission of information in such a way that the other feels understood. Learning to develop your communication skills will help you both at work and in family life and in caring for babies.

      3. Emotional management

      And finally, the most important skill on which the previous two depend: the management of emotions. Every second of the day we feel emotions and they influence us not only in our mood but also in your interpretations of what is going on., Views, decisions, actions, relationships, etc.

      Learning to have emotions on your side (rather than against you) is what will help you live on the basis of acceptance, peace, trust and excitement instead of fear, insecurity, anger or guilt.

      final

      Going through this process of change can be one of the most important turning points in your life.. One way to take a first step is as follows: go to empoderamientohumano.com and you can plan a free first exploratory session. In this session we will meet, explore the situation, find the source of the problem, the final solution and above all how I can support you in this process of change so that you achieve it 100%.

      Motherhood and work are not mutually exclusive, although it can be difficult. You will make it compatible. You will make your job easier. Through your own change, everything else will change.

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