Since we are not all the same, human beings deal in different ways with the positive and negative vicissitudes associated with the challenges they face on a daily basis, whether at work or in any other field. In other words, what does not change is that it is impossible not to be subject to certain obligations and responsibilities, and what varies is how we manage these experiences.
For example, while some people adopt a pessimistic and self-sabotaging mentality in the face of everyday difficulties, others adopt a proactive and problem-solving mentality, a key difference that, from the same resources and skill level techniques, can cause two people to achieve very different results.
Thus, the way we perceive tasks and obligations significantly influences the likelihood of success, and this is a fundamental principle that psychologists take into account in any psychotherapy process. But… How to turn obligations into challenges?
The value of the challenge
Perceived obligations can make us work less willingly and create a state of discomfort when we feel that what we are doing has nothing to do with us or does not fulfill us in our life.
On the contrary, by transforming these daily obligations of our professional or private life into challenges that motivate us and with which we are 100% committed, we will achieve our goals. with greater efficiency and likelihood of doing it well.
A personal challenge, as opposed to an obligation, is lived with more interest and involvement, it allows us to be constant and to move towards the desired goal with more intensity and desire.
In addition to this, the challenges allow, in general, to be more methodical and aware as to how we will achieve the objectives, and they invite us to measure our forces and to work with more energy and vitality.
Strategies to turn obligations into challenges
These are the most important tips you should keep in mind so that obligations become, from your point of view, motivating challenges.
1. Seek motivation from self-knowledge
Motivation is essential to achieving any goal in life and is one of the most important elements of challenges. But to connect to these sources of motivation, you have to know yourself; know both our values and our interests.
A challenge is a bet with ourselves, a future promise to succeed in any area of life and in every task we take on, which is motivating in itself.
Our job is to find different sources of motivation in each challenge we take on, which will make our job easier and enable us to tackle the challenges more successfully and quickly.
2. Chop the tasks
A good way to motivate ourselves can be to set small, short-term goals during our challenge; this way we will find motivating milestones every time and we will always feel that we can feel good about nosotros mismos by simply devoting ourselves to a task for a few minutes or a few hours.
3. Avoid procrastination
Procrastination is the tendency to put off any work that we have to do, a habit that many people practice in their daily lives and which has very specific psychological causes.
Some of these causes can be low self-esteem, lack of motivation or simply fear of failure in any task in which one participates.
Procrastination can cause real problems in the personal and professional life of any individual, as it leads to a backlog of undone work, which in turn can seriously affect a person’s emotional health.
This is why to overcome procrastination you must always keep in mind that a challenge is much more attractive than an obligation and that you must continue, with motivation, diligence, constancy and tenacity.
4. Commit to the challenge by talking about it with others
The commitment to the challenge is one of the most crucial elements for its correct development and without a doubt what will help us to be constant and to pursue the achievement of our objective at all times of the process.
A person is committed to meeting the challenge he faces when he assumes as his own all the problems or errors that may arise during the work, when he spares no resources and when he gives 100% of his effort without making the slightest compromise at every step.
Feeling that what we are doing brings us a positive contribution and that it is someone else’s task this will allow us to work with more determination, commitment, motivation and consistency.
5. Technique for detecting and dealing with the feared consequence
One of the main techniques that we can apply in our daily life to transform obligations into personal challenges in which we feel part is the technique of detecting and dealing with the feared consequence.
This technique is about daring to take on any challenge and working to achieve it with the abiding belief that every mistake or problem we encounter along the way is a logical consequence of the same challenge we have committed to.
In other words, it’s not worth regretting when things go wrong, but every mistake is an opportunity to learn and reflect and reconfigure our course of action in pursuit of ultimate success.
Finally, it is important to note that this technique is based on facing the frustration generated by any treatment or error madeand if the challenge posed is too ambitious, we can transform it into a more concrete and realistic challenge.
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