I want to save time: when we want to do everything

Poor time organization is one of the most common sources of stress and anxiety that we can suffer people, but luckily we have the capacity to manage it.

Being aware that we have this power greatly improves our well-being and our quality of life. And although it is not always easy for us to do this, to choose priorities and goals, to delegate tasks, to say “no” at the right time … these are actions that can promote our emotional balance and can get rid of the frustration.

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With a smart scheme Sergio Fernandez on productivity and time management this week, M.ª Teresa Mata, Psychologist of the Institute of Psychological and Psychiatric Assistance Mensalus launches a reflection on the management of priorities and the pursuit of vital objectives. Ana Daurat.

“I don’t have time” is a feeling that at one point we all verbalized …

Is right. And look: it’s impossible to have more time, the good news is we have the capacity to handle it. Time management is real. It’s something that, when we discovered it, made us feel extremely powerful.

Although hard to believe, not everything is a priority. However. Saying “no” is much more complicated than it looks. Otherwise, we would stop overloading our seemingly essential programs. Letting go, restraining, rejecting and delegating are actions that require training, training related to goal setting and the conservation of life energy.

What should you consider this choice?

Priority management is important to be faithful to vital goals. For this reason, listening to our will facilitates the establishment of limits and the manifestation of the right to get rid of the “superfluous” (which, at first, we signal as “I must” and, after evaluating the degree of costs and benefits, we categorize them as “I don’t want them”).

We are used to operating under constant distractions and interruptions resulting from outside demands and, let’s not deny it, self-demands (“I want to be in everything”). Likewise, we often “give” time to tasks that do not reward us (“for what it costs me, is it worth it?”). Being mentally organized is essential to live the time, to savor it and not to compete on a daily basis (“I have the impression of not coming”). The famous “I have the impression of not coming” is a source of anguish.

How to win the battle?

An interesting concept is that of “firewalls”: indicators that force us to complete the task. The worst enemy of the firewall is perfectionism. Satisfying your anxieties results in a bottomless pit, a “thief” for life. Working well is different from living for the sake of working, so tasks must accept certain imperfections. Otherwise, we’ll delay the next goal and of course feel like we can’t do it all. In this sense, postponing and delaying is a burden on productivity. Any decision involves a loss, no matter how small. Assuming that’s what makes us free people and relieves us of unwanted demand.

What other aspects add to anxiety?

Again, thoughts related to pending tasks (“I have to remember”). Writing down the task (and, taking advantage of new technology, associating it with a warning) is a recommendation that everyone knows. However, we do not devote enough time to realistic planning and organizing of the agenda. Because? Perhaps because of the famous belief “I have, I have and I have”.

That said. We can set up many organizational systems, more or less visual, more or less sophisticated (Ex .: “Make lists, create filters, cut the phone, point by colors, delete emails, check the tasks of the months’, etc.) but allowing us to be the element that really decides whether we are productive or not (whether we are covering a consistent level of work / demand).

What else can we do to remind ourselves that not having time is just a feeling?

Show us that this is so. You’ve tried saying ‘no’ to unexpected requests, seemingly appealing plans that turn into real Tetris games that can’t be adapted, meetings where talking is more than work, long breakfasts, delegable tasks (” I have to go / do it myself “), etc.? It’s a good way to start, on the other hand, the “I don’t have time” even becomes an excuse not to stop and think about all that is too much in our lives. Putting an expiration date on “what’s left” is the first step.

From coaching and psychotherapy, we draw the necessary steps to achieve this. Today, to start the year, we ended up with a very graphic and nifty diagram. We hope you find it useful.

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