There are psychological characteristics which, while in some cases they can be useful, in most cases, in practice, cause more problems than they solve.
These traits can be considered as the main weaknesses of the human being., Unprotected points of our personality which can become spaces through which misadventures creep.
How do we identify those moments when our weaknesses put us in a vulnerable situation? Let’s take a look at several ideas and examples.
The main weaknesses of human beings
This is a checklist of typical weaknesses where we waste more energy and effort than we need to. They help to maintain situations that they cause us real headaches and in many cases they also cause problems that shouldn’t exist out of nowhere.
Of course, as always in these cases, every name of human weaknesses is an abstraction, which means that when they appear in our daily life, it is not obvious that we are confronted with them. Knowing helps to detect them, but it is not enough; we have to stop, think and pay attention to what we are doing and how we are feeling.
Impatience is one of the main obstacles that separate us from our goals. The most ambitious goals require the investment of a lot of effort, time and resourcesAnd if impatience takes control, any plan or strategy aimed at this kind of goal will be undermined by the relative lack of short-term compensation.
For example, the decision to spend a lot of money on a trip and not on a personal project that would have had many chances to prosper is a testament to how impatience can get us stuck.
Selfishness can be positive in specific situations, but in a large number of situations the only thing it does is get us to cut our ties with society.
Thus, it leaves us little by little alone, not only by harming those around us because of the times when we disappoint them, but also by leading us to lose human capital around us: fewer people ready to help. we need it.
Jealousy leads us to feel the need to control the lives of others for fear of losing them, which is, paradoxically, a fact which considerably harms any personal connection that we could have with her by not recognizing her individuality and her personal freedom.
For example, a person who sees with bad eyes that his partner is left alone with friends, falls into jealousy and tries to make the whole social life of the loved one revolve around him.
Cowardice leads us not to make decisions that, although they are uncomfortable and involve stepping out of the comfort zone, they are necessary so that our lives or those of our community or our collective improve.
For example, not wanting to cut someone off so as not to expose yourself to a situation full of tears and frustration is often an example of cowardice that hurts at least two people (including yourself).
5. Conformism with ignorance
Conformity doesn’t have to be bad; after all, not everyone lives in a situation where they can afford to constantly take risks in order to aspire to different goals. However, compliance applied specifically to knowledge is one of the human weaknesses. The reason is that it makes us blind in a world where knowledge can save us a lot of trouble.
For example, the belief that you don’t have to know anything about politics to create a just and functioning society is often detrimental not only to the individual, but to society as a whole.
Focusing on old offenses, real or imagined, is another of the human weaknesses that facilitates the emergence of unjustified hostilities.
Sometimes, sometimes, resentment can lead to society as a whole causing antipathy to a vague sense of offense caused by the idea that life has taken us out more than it has given us. But, in practice, this only promotes isolation and difficulties in forming meaningful sentimental bonds: few people like to deal with those who have passive-aggressive attitudes.
There are people who get used to living the way other people live, imitating their values, their way of thinking and acting, and even their aesthetic.
Over time, this leads to unbearable situations, because it is not possible to live indefinitely by following a vital project that is not what one has built for oneself. And, when the one who has fallen into this dynamic of addiction realizes, this problem is added to a feeling of having wasted time for months or years. It is therefore one of the weaknesses of human beings with a greater power to generate existential crises.
8. Little openness to new experiences
Human beings must already focus on new challenges, new experiences that allow them to advance in their personal development. Meet new people, visit countries and cultures, read interesting topics… are habits that allow an individual to grow intellectually and to be more open to cross new horizons.
People who are not able to open up to new experiences often stagnate in innocuous realities, with habits that are not uplifting and anchoring them in a boring reality. To try to resolve this situation, we just need to open our minds and be ready to step out of our comfort zone and find out what our concerns are.
9. Attitude of control
The tendency to want to control the behavior of groups or individuals gives way to many dysfunctions in social life. In fact, it sometimes facilitates the emergence of violence, using force as a method to demonstrate power and establish domination. It is therefore one of the aspects in which the quality of life of oneself and of others can be altered: it generates confrontation.
10. Excess of ego
People who are too ruled by strict codes of honor and who they are unable to admit their mistakes because of their pride they present one of the weaknesses of the human being which harms the social life the most: the excess of the Ego. This can lead to completely unnecessary enmity and even facilitate loss of health due to the inability to recognize that help is needed.
11. Poor anger management
People who are unable to control their anger believe that the world is a place where any offense against them must be corrected immediately, even if it’s just about expressing anger and hurting someone with. Irrationally, they believe that there is a system of compensation in the world whereby if the one who has done wrong cannot compensate for the damage, at least he can be the target of the fury of those who feel offended.
This only brings problems, because on the one hand anger blinds them and does not even allow them to stop to think if the person they are attacking is really responsible for what happened to them, and on the other sometimes part of paying someone’s plate is even worse than not doing it, if with that you lose even more.
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