When we can see that there is something in us or in our life that does not correspond 100% to our needs, we can choose two options: to leave things as is or to develop strategies that we are not. satisfied with the improvement and transform.
If you choose the second option, that of taking action and implementing measures that help you improve and evolve, it means that you are choosing perform a conscious transformation.
I want to change and I don’t know where to start: conscious transformation
Conscious transformation simply refers to the decision to want to change something deliberately, and it is directly linked to your personal growth.
Sometimes we say we want to change something, but we don’t know where to start. That’s why mindfulness psychology offers four fundamental principles that will help you navigate the path of personal change and growth. These principles of transformation are: recognition, acceptance, seeking and non-identification. Together they make up the acronym RAIN, something that may help you remember it.
Below, I briefly describe each of the Principles of Mindfulness Transformation (RAIN). These can be taken as steps to complete a change process.
Recognition is the step that it’s okay to deny our reality to accept what’s going on.
Denial refers to the lack of an internal statement that something is really going on. If we deny and don’t acknowledge, we will never be able to make a change, for our denial will undermine our freedom to choose whether or not we want this for ourselves.
It is important to understand that so as not to deny something, we suffer less of the consequences. I can deny that I have a problem with food but I will not stop suffering from it to relate to it this way. This is why this first step is so important, because if we refuse things, we will never be able to take matters into our own hands.
Recognition opens us to observing ourselves and our world in a conscious and liberating way, leading us from ignorance and enthusiasm to freedom.
When we find ourselves stuck in life, we have to start with having a predisposition to observe and ask what is going on? For that, we have to start by admitting our truth.
Example: A frequent drinker who denies the cost of his insane lifestyle to his health makes his way to recognize that this recurring drinking habit is something that causes him discomfort.
The second step is acceptance. acceptance it is a complex concept to explain because it is often linked to resignation. Quickly and not to be mistaken, I explain the differences in his way of expressing himself: resignation is expressed by “okay, it’s true, I can’t do anything” and acceptance, however, by “okay, so what can I do this. “
After recognizing our reality and opening up to observe it, we need to do a deep job of acceptance. acceptance it is the openness of being able to include everything that awaits us in our lives, From a deep understanding that things are as they are now, without judging them.
The passage from acceptance takes practice, time, and persistence, and is of great value, but allows the crudest problems to become likely to work. Working on mindfulness can be the key to this step.
We can summarize this principle as that of embrace our reality whatever it is in the here and now.
Example: I have already recognized that I have a problem with alcohol, now I accept it, I do not escape it or I reject it even if it hurts me.
The research stage follows recognition and acceptance and is the investigation stage. This step includes the questions of How? Sure? Because? How? etc … It is the stage of observation of our reality par excellence.
We have recognized and accepted our dilemmas, now we need a broader investigation of all the senses and areas in which they are present and in which they are involved.
To carry out this process successfully, sometimes we need guidance, as we can get lost in the process. It allows us to understand why and / or just see how this thing that we want to change is present in our lives on all levels.
The research we do it has to be done in the body, mind and emotions. It will also be necessary to explore the models which constitute the experience, that is to say the learning which is adjacent to it.
Some of the questions of this principle are: How do I feel this in the body, how do I feel it and where? What do I think? What am I feeling? Is this experience constant or inconsistent over time? When does it occur in time?
4: No identification
This step is essential to achieve a transformation. Significa stop talking about this experience as “me” or “mine”. In other words, we stop identifying with all the labels related to the experience, by becoming independent. We go from “my trouble” or “my problem” to simply “problem”. This step is the culmination of the transformation.
In this step we can understand the transient nature of things, see them with a greater perspective and perceive how they are constantly changing. We break away from our idea of what “I am” and allow ourselves to build a more fluid “I am”.
When we understand this principle in depth, we are free to let go of the problem and start solving it from a state that you can describe with this question.
Example: From identifying “I am a failure” to, I have sometimes behaved like a failure, but this is not always the case. I don’t identify with the fail tag and allow myself to let it go because I don’t want it for myself.
At this point in the process is when we understand that our conscious being can accommodate millions of changing experiences then we started to choose those with whom we want to build ourselves.
These principles can serve as a guide on your path of conscious growth and transformation. It is not always easy to go this route, so take your time and if you need it, ask for help.
To finish …
Did you know these principles? Hope you learned something new today and this article will be helpful to you when you decide to consciously change something. And if at any time you need professional psychological help, contact us.