There is a room full of books and bric-a-brac that is not used, but not given away, recycled or sold.
There has been an aspiration to study a career for years, but the decision is never made to do so and begin the development of a vocation.
A rehearsal is known for having an exact delivery time, and you have to sit down and write, but maybe watching a movie is more tempting. To finish, procrastination, this habit of putting everything off, ends up being the big winner.
What do we mean by procrastination?
Etymologically, “procrastination” comes from the Latin: pro, forward, and crastinus, referring to the future, postponement or adjournment. Therefore, procrastination can be defined as the procrastination tendency to intentionally waste time, delay and postpone tasks or situations instead of facing them.
It is an irrational process, because the priority of feeling good in the present moment takes precedence over its negative consequences. We speak of irrationality, as long as the person is aware of its implications, and yet continues to perpetuate such an action.
The habit of postponing our activities It has a lot to do with short-term mood repairas our mind struggles between duty and will, momentary gratification and long-term gratification, avoiding those emotions that can become difficult.
Thus, people get trapped in this irrational circle of chronic procrastination, making procrastination a way of life, causing a sense of chaos and frustration due to the backlog of pending tasks.
However, procrastination should not be understood as a character flaw or a mysterious spell that has befallen our ability to organize time, but to an inability to regulate negative moods around a task: anxiety, insecurity, boredom, frustration, resentment and more.
There are people who specialize in postponing, behaving that way all the time because somehow they believe that tomorrow will be more suitable for carrying out pending activities. However, the temporary relief we feel when we procrastinate is what it ends in an even more vicious circle. Procrastination should not be understood as a sporadic behavior, but as a circle, which easily ends up leading to a chronic habit and increased anxiety and stress, increasing procrastination and therefore discomfort.
What to do?
Unfortunately, we can’t tell ourselves to stop. And despite the abundance of “optimism and organization tips,” which focus on how to “solve” the job, they don’t get to the root cause of it.
Self-awareness is a key aspect to understanding why procrastination makes us feel bad. When we procrastinate, we are not only aware that we are avoiding the task at hand, but also that it is probably a bad idea. And yet, we do it anyway.
At this point, the key is to understand that Procrastination is about emotions, not laziness. The solution is not just to download apps that tell us how to use time better, but to be able to manage our emotions in a different way.
To reconfigure any habit, we need to be able to give our brain a valuable reward, find what is really valuable behind those actions, visualize the long-term goal and its benefits to be able to better manage these emotions which can be difficult and complicated.
We have surely been many times in this confinement, remembering the situations in which we have overcome this difficulty can be very useful. Often people expect to be motivated to act, waiting to be hit by a ‘motivating ray’. In the meantime, experience shows us that motivation increases when you start doing what is necessary to achieve something that is really important for us.
In short, changing your habits is within everyone’s reach. For this, we need two fundamental ingredients: to choose a change that is consistent with our scale of values, and to sustain it, despite the different bad weather, until we end up making it a lasting habit.