Mental health affects all areas of our life.
It allows us to establish healthy and functional emotional bonds with others, allows us to interact appropriately with other people, allows us to perform well at work, and even allows us to enjoy the day-to-day and to be able to realize the desired concept. of happiness. “Yet … What are the characteristics of psychologically healthy people? This is the subject we will discuss below.
Traits of psychologically healthy people
The psychologist from the practice of psychologists in Malaga Málaga PsicoAbreu suggests a series of traits that people who we consider to be psychologically healthy must have. They are as follows.
1. Good self-esteem
A person with adequate self-esteem and good self-esteem knows and views himself realistically. She does not despise herself, overdo herself, underestimate or overestimate her abilities or skills, does not appear inferior to others, does not compare herself to others, is confident in most of the decisions that she makes. ‘she takes, is satisfied with herself (even though she knows she still needs to improve), she is confident in her own abilities, she feels good alone (she has no fear or anxiety in the loneliness), she knows her strengths and weaknesses, she respects herself, knows what is good and what is not, is able to accept criticism from others, knows how to apologize, knows how to self-criticize in a way healthy to improve …
It can also be closely associated with the concept of self-esteem the concept of emotional independence, This allows you to consider another person and any relationship as one more part of your daily life, allowing the consolidation of healthy relationships with others.
2. Emotional intelligence
A person with adequate emotional intelligence is able to feel, experience, and express their positive and negative emotions. An emotionally intelligent person is able to self-regulate and exercise control over their own emotions and feelings.
Identifying, analyzing, communicating and managing your emotions it is crucial to be able to achieve more adaptive end behavior in the future. People with emotional intelligence are not overwhelmed by their own emotions (fear, anger, anger, guilt, anxiety, jealousy …), because they are able to feel and process in an adaptive way, so as not to anchor a long time.
Resilience is a positive skill that it allows us to go through an unfavorable, traumatic or extreme situation with our own adaptability, and even allows us to emerge stronger. Resilience allows us to go through an adverse event adaptively, although this does not mean that negative emotions are not felt or expressed during the process of illness, death, grief …
4. Place of internal control
People with an internal locus of control are characterized because they believe that there is a close relationship between their behaviors or behaviors and their consequences.
A person with an internal locus of control has the perception that they themselves are capable of controlling their life and that they are not controlled by fate, fate, karma, or the decisions of others. The locus of internal control facilitates traits such as responsibility, effort, perseverance, positive self-criticism … For example, a person with an internal locus of control attributes his successes and failures to his own actions, and no to outside forces.
In contrast, people with an external locus of control attribute their merits, failures and responsibilities to external events or other people, which leads to low self-esteem, a passive attitude towards adversity and not facilitate personal growth.
Assertive communication with others consists of expressing one’s own opinions, emotions, feelings, needs and wants, in a timely and direct manner.
Assertiveness therefore requires respect for one’s own rights and those of others, without falling into passive or aggressive communication. In addition, it enables healthier, deeper and more adaptive relationships with others and facilitates interaction with the environment.
On the other hand, assertiveness is closely related to good self-esteem, because if I consider my needs, opinions and feelings to be just as important as those of others, I will find it easier to express them and to be able to defend the bear. .
6. Tolerance of frustration
The frustration is an unpleasant secondary emotion that has components of anger, sadness and helplessness, And this is experienced so as not to be able to have what we thought or expected (project, project enthusiasm, material object …).
Every day we go through many events and situations that frustrate us: losing the bus, quarreling at work, not leaving the shoes you liked your size, having a friend cancel your boss’s plan for a week, being stolen, being fired from work. .. Frustration is a very common emotion in our daily life, so it is essential to know how to control and manage it.
7. Patience and self-control
Patience is a skill that allows us to endure and struggle through difficulties and setbacks to achieve a goal or not. We all know that what is valuable or valuable takes patience and effort (having a career, specializing in something, having a romantic relationship with someone …), so developing patience is essential in our daily life so as not to give up what we have set out to do.
Self-control is a skill that it is related to patience and the ability to postpone gratification immediately to achieve a goal considered to be much more important. For example, if I fail to control myself and say no to a trip with a friend on the weekend before exams (postponement of immediate gratuity), I will not be able to study and I will not betray those topics, which allow me to achieve my proposed goal of “betraying my career”.
8. Ability to adapt and cope
Changes are frequent in our lives and in our daily lives, so it is essential to be able to adapt to them. People with good adaptability are able to adapt to new situations: to a new life in another city, to a new environment, to the death of a loved one, to a duel, to a disappointment in a love story …
The adaptive capacities that everyone develops throughout their life they help to accept and better manage these new situations, To be able to regain the emotional and psychological well-being that existed before the event. These coping skills can be the positive restructuring of negative or dysfunctional thoughts, the search for social support, the positive reassessment of the event … among many others.
Empathy is a skill that allows us to know how others feel or think, so that we can understand their emotions, feelings and intentions. This ability to put yourself in the other’s shoes this allows us to have an adaptive and efficient interaction more easily with their closest social environment.
10. Social skills
Social skills are the tools for socializing with others. People in good mental health, in general, they have satisfactory social relationships and are able to maintain strong bonds with others, They communicate well with strangers and acquaintances, they generally have a pleasant relationship with others on a daily basis, they maintain bonds. Psychologically healthy people enjoy socializing and tend to feel good in the company of others, so social relationships are satisfying for them.
How to improve these features?
It is possible to work on all these characteristics with the help of psychological therapy, be able to be a person in better psychological health and achieve greater psychological well-being on a daily basis. As patients, this will allow us to have more adaptive and healthy bonds with the people around us, to feel better about ourselves and to have more fun every day.
If you don’t have any of these skills, it would be a good idea to go to the psychologist to have good psychological health and achieve greater personal and mental well-being.