- Fear is only a problem when you are afraid of your fears
the by is probably the most popular human emotion of recent times, especially Social networks they have become our main means of communication. We share fear videos and phrases and constantly tell ourselves not to be afraid, we bet on a life without fear, we see it as our own worst enemy. What if the human being was never afraid?
Fear is one of the most basic emotions of a human being as well as of any mammal. It’s an emotion that plays a key role: survival. What if we live without fear? There is only one possibility: we would die. Without fear, we would live so recklessly that we would put our lives in danger and die within days of not being afraid. Fear has a very important use in our lives. Our big problem with fear is that we live with dysfunctional fears.
Let’s explore a little more what this instinctive emotion is and what it is used for.
What is fear?
According to experimental psychology, there are six main emotions: joy, surprise, anger, sadness, disgust and fear. Experiences find these six emotions because there are six different facial expressions, although there are many more emotions depending on the culture and vocabulary with the baptism of these emotions.
Fear, however, is a fundamental and primary emotion, as it is found in all cultures and the feeling that it has great consequences on the body. It’s an unpleasant emotionAs it makes us feel bad (but not negative, because feeling emotions is always positive, whatever they are) It is also a passive emotion because it tries to take us away from what is happening. When we feel fear, it also leads us to feel helpless. What happens when we feel fear is that we withdraw.
What is fear for? Functions and Effects
Fear is often characterized as a negative emotion, which should be avoided and is linked to unhappiness. However, the truth is that if fear is an emotion present in practically all the cultures studied, it is possible to deduce that it is there for something. Does it perform a relevant function? What is fear for?
In short, fear is used to survive, it is a mechanism of adaptation to an environment which sometimes gives us reasons to fear. What fear serves has to do with our ability to react quickly to dangerous situations, because thanks to it, we withdraw when threatened. This threat can be to our life, or to our self-esteem, our security (depending on our beliefs about what is safe or not), our self-image.
Fear is therefore just an emotion that reacts according to our mental patterns, our beliefs and our thoughts. Fear in itself is positive, it helps us move away from an event for which we are not yet ready..
When is fear a problem?
Fear is a problem when it is dysfunctional. It is important to clarify that there are no positive or negative emotions (this is said in the textbooks where, what is expected is the psychological diagnosis and these concepts so orthodox and false are still used). Feeling emotions is positive, it is always positive to feel an emotion because it has some kind of utility and we should feel our emotions freely instead of suppressing them or trying to control them.
The problem with any emotion is when our beliefs and interpretations cause us to experience fear in a dysfunctional way, that is, what happens as a result of the feeling that fear is even worse than what would happen if we didn’t feel it. Example: often we don’t do what we want and this is really important in our lives because we are afraid of what might happen (traveling, going to live in another country, starting our own business, starting a romantic relationship , do something new for our own media, public speaking, dancing in front of other people, etc.).
If we deal with our fear in a dysfunctional way, it will slow us down too much. Remember: fear is not a problem, it only obeys us … The problem is what we do with fear.
Things that scare us (phobias)
There are different aspects of life (situations, ideas, objects …) that generate fear in many people. Here is a list of different phobias; by clicking on the title, you can access a detailed report on each of them.
Agoraphobia (anticipatory anxiety)
Amaxophobia (panic while driving)
Anuptophobia (fear of being single)
Coulrophobia (fear of clowns)
Erythrophobia (panic to turn red)
Philophobia (to fall in love)
Gerascophobia (fear of aging)
Hematophobia (panic in the blood)
And for a more general review of the different phobias that exist and their characteristics, you can visit this article:
Types of phobias: exploring fear disorders
How important is fear?
Fear is such an important emotion that we couldn’t live without her. Our happiness and well-being depend on the decisions we make in our life and how we interpret what is happening. We have a responsibility to be well and to make our life a fascinating experience.
Fear helps us regulate the size of our steps at all times … like a kind of cautious mother. Again, this happens when we deal with our fear in a functional way, that is, we are a little afraid of what can really be a problem for us now and we still need some training. or a waiting time to be able to cope with it.
How do we handle it?
Ask yourself what you would really like to do and not do. What would you like to live and not live. How would you like your life to be and you are not doing what it takes to make it happen. All these fears: what are they based on? In your beliefs? In fact the past? What could you do to ensure that this fact never affects you again?
An emotional management process, to increase your level of emotional intelligence (which would help you functionally manage your fear, understand others, and help them) is probably the best way to switch to dysfunctional fear. This note will not end with a “do not be afraid” … but with a “Live big despite your fears”.