It is often said that it is never too late to start overBut this statement poses a problem. Usually these types of positive messages are useful in those times when our lives are going through difficult times, but it is precisely in these situations that we are most reluctant to accept them: pessimism invades us.
Of course, it’s easy to become pessimistic when you look back and think about the time that, from the present, seems to have been lost. But that feeling doesn’t change the facts: embracing a whole new lifestyle, learning amazing skills, or starting exciting relationships is something possible in just about any situation, regardless of age. Let’s see why we know this.
Why we are always able to adapt
The passage of time does not affect us only by making us learn about the environment; even if we don’t realize it, it also causes us to internalize a series of beliefs about who we are and where we are going. In other words, experience is also used to build a concept of self.
Having a well-established self-image is very beneficial in many ways. For example, in many cases this allows you to set realistic expectations and not throw extremely risky situations out of how little you can gain.
However, this image we have of ourselves can turn into a prison. And it is that with the simple passage of the years we can arrive at an erroneous conclusion: “if during all this time we have not reached a certain goal, it means that we are not made to reach it”. In other words, having more information leads us to mistakenly conclude that we know all of our limitations.
It’s never too late to start over
If anything sets us apart from animals, it’s our incredible ability to learn. While many other species have incredible abilities, these exist because they are fire-tagged in their DNA.
Humans have virtually no instincts to condition our behavior in predictable and stereotypical ways, which means we don’t come into the world with this kind of help to adapt to the environment. The best part of this is that in the same way that our genetics don’t give us special facilities, we have a wide range of learning opportunities. And yes, at any age.
The ability to learn is part of the brain
Our ability to learn is part of the normal functioning of the brain because it works from a mechanism called neural plasticity: our neurons are constantly changing their patterns of connectivity, strengthening some relationships and weakening others depending on the usefulness of each of these bridges between nerve cells.
This ability is also reflected in human psychology, for example, allowing us to master the skills very well that just a few months ago, we hadn’t dominated at all. Pessimism can make this mental quality go unnoticed, but that doesn’t prevent it from existing. In fact, it is a skill that is retained even into adulthood.
If it’s too late to start over, it’s just because there is no connection with the past that determines what we will be in the future. Neither our genes nor our past history lead us to act “on rails”, following in a straight line the direction in which we have come to the present.
It’s true that just being older means that there are certain limits when it comes to deepening the degree of mastery we can achieve by practicing a new skill, but that doesn’t matter. importance only if we want to reach elite levels. On another side, if what we want to start is for example an emotional relationship, This small limitation disappears; there are no “elite” ways to love and relate to loved ones.
After all, starting all over is simply the union of two elements: learning new habits and routines, and a change of air related to the physical and social environments in which we operate. This is something that is perfectly achievable no matter how much time has passed since the beginning of our life journey. It is worth taking advantage of this simple fact that allows us to develop our goals in any direction.