We insist more and more on the idea of growing psychologically it consists of surrounding yourself with people, Learn to communicate anytime and with all kinds of people, let the verb flow in all kinds of conversations.
Where creativity is required, work is increasingly teamwork and collaborative learning. Trades and professions linked to loneliness are associated with the mechanic, with the monotonous.
However, this idea is misleading. Loneliness is not simply an almost inevitable circumstance in a society where the traditional family model has lost its strength. Above all, loneliness is a source of inspiration and personal growth.
Being alone is not a crime
In many countries, introverts, who are those who have to spend more time in busy, sparsely populated environments, are highly valued.
In Western countries, however, this kind of personality is viewed with the condescension of one who speaks to someone who does not know what is lost. The normal thing, it seems, is to be around people almost every hour. People who also they interact with us and show their camaraderie or admiration. Going unnoticed or isolating yourself in an informal meeting doesn’t count. The superficial charm of psychopaths and narcissists seems rewarded.
The rare times we speak of the good of being alone, it is almost always to compare it to the possibility of “being in bad company”. But … does the positive side of loneliness really only show up when compared to the worst situation that could happen in its absence? The answer is no; lack of companionship also has psychological aspects which are good by themselves and which, in fact, allowed many geniuses to make history.
The limits of the company
There is another way of looking at it. A company in which to be in company does not need to broaden our horizons of creativity and spontaneity or it may even have the opposite effect.
Interacting with someone requires adapt to a communication code that limits us. We try to make ourselves understood, and that’s why we devote part of our attention to controlling how others react. Likewise, one of our main goals will be to successfully communicate ideas and feelings. One way or another, we bear the responsibility of the other to come to certain conclusions. Even when we lie, we must look to common referents to be understood.
Likewise, when we share a space with someone, we devote a good deal of our mental processes to making a good impression, even unintentionally. In short, relating to others involves making an effort to bring our ideas to something translatable, even at the cost of subtracting authenticity and nuance.
To converse is to lead our reflection on paths which, in part, were already thought out by many other people a long time ago in order to create effective codes of communication through which we make ourselves understood in a few seconds. Sentences made, metaphors, comparisons made … all this acts as a psychological funnel and this biases both us and our interlocutors.
The creative potential of introspection
Solitude, on the other hand, offers almost total freedom. We are alone, with our own metaphors and ways of understanding life, and we can continue to build on these foundations in a much purer way than we would in someone else’s company.
We don’t have to be accountable to anyone because we don’t have to communicate with anyone; with which we understand each other, we have had enough.
In solitude, great ideas appear that we do not have to reject out of shame or because they are not understood at first. If they fit well into our mental patterns, they are already valid. And, if not, several times too.
Maybe that’s why great geniuses like Leonardo DaVinci. Charles Darwin or Friedrich Nietzsche appreciated solitude so much. After all, the greatest intellectual breakthroughs are always the renunciation of following the path of thought that others have followed.
Creating creative revolutions is just that, breaking the molds. Do not please othersBut because the ideas that we have had are so powerful that, if they give us the choice between social conventions and them, we decide for them. But this can only be done if we respect our thoughts enough to let go of them for a while, so that they develop without social distractions.
Create good relationships
The mind works like a machine for associating ideas; creativity comes when it occurs to us to unite many of those who seem to have less in common with each other. It is clear that for these connections to occur, we must relate to others; among other things, because otherwise we would not have a language to articulate abstract ideas.
But to come full circle, we also need solitude. First, to rest, and second, to cultivate a way of seeing life that is unique and truly ours, By introspection.