Gender-based violence is and has been a major social problem and scourge throughout history, claiming many lives and ruining so many.
The fight against this reality has only acquired social relevance in recent times, although different voices have expressed the suffering of those who suffer from abuse, outrage and the need to face such acts.
Some of these voices, some well-known and some anonymous, reflected powerful messages. Among them we find great phrases against gender violence.
80 convictions against gender violence
Throughout this article we will see phrases contrary to gender inequality and violence. Some of them are by well known authors and other authors who are anonymous or part of various advertising campaigns.
Some also start from statements or works which did not directly address this issue, but which can nonetheless be applied or some kind of relation can be found with gender violence.
1. Enough minutes of fear, humiliation, pain, silence. We have the right to have every minute of freedom, happiness, love, life. (No less campaign)
These sentences express the will to live and the right of women to be free and happy, to live without fear.
2. We want to live. All. Not one less. (No less campaign)
Many women die less every day than their partners or ex-partners simply because they are. That’s why phrases like this make us understand the need to tackle gender-based violence.
3. In the face of atrocities, we must take sides. Silence stimulates the executioner (Elie Wiesel)
Failure to act is not an option in the face of gender-based violence, as it encourages the perpetrator to continue abusing.
4. Any time of day or night is good to say enough and end a stage in your life that you wish you hadn’t lived (Raimunda of Penyafort)
Renowned judge and writer Raimunda de Penyafort expressed in this sentence the need to come forward when the victim decides that it is necessary to change and end his torment.
5. Neither saints nor whores. We are only women (Rotmi Enciso)
Sometimes referred to as a phrase in various protests against gender violence and in favor of equality, this phrase expresses the need to consider the woman as a human being equal to the man: An existence worthy of respect and which should not be virtuous and virginal, neither passionate and sexual, nor protected as if it were something fragile and incapable nor used as an object.
6. No man is good enough to lead a woman without her consent (Susan Anthony)
No one has the right to choose and dominate our lives beyond ourselves.
7. This irrational desire for domination, control and power over the other person is the main force that feeds domestic violence between couples (Luis Rojas Marcos)
As this well-known Spanish psychiatrist tells us, what ultimately generates abuse is the desire for power over the other, often using traditional gender roles.
8. wall up your own suffering is to risk being devoured from within (Frida Kahlo)
Although the sentence in question does not refer to abuse, it expresses a very common reality among people who suffer from it: hide and bury yourself in the deepest suffering, Which makes it difficult to make the decision to say enough.
9. All violence is the result of people deceiving – believing that their pain is caused by other people, therefore believing that they deserve to be punished (Marshall Rosenberg)
This sentence is pretty self-explanatory and leads us to think that one of the motivating factors (but not the only one) of aggression is self-contempt and the aggressor’s feeling of lack of competence.
10. Break the silence. When you witness violence against women, don’t just sit back. Actua (Ban Ki-moon)
This sentence from the diplomat and former Secretary General of the United Nations expresses the need for witnesses and those who perceive ill-treatment not to simply ignore it, but to help victims and to speak out against acts of violence.
11. The fear of women in the face of man’s violence is the mirror of man’s fear of the fearless woman (Eduardo Galeano)
Many cases of gender-based violence arise from the need for the abuser to maintain their power and control over the other, using the assault as a method to attempt to remove the victim’s power to live freely.
12. We had two choices: shut up and die or talk and die. We decided to talk (Malala Yousafzai)
This phrase refers to the reality of many women who are submissive and bound to suffering, pain and even death because of the fear that the revolt will cause them even greater pain.
13. It’s not no!
Gender-based violence is perpetrated in many ways, one of which is sexual violence: sexual abuse or rape are the best known examples. Those who commit this type of violence often ignore the negative aspects of their victim, Trivializes them and even suggests that the victim really wanted to have sex. This is why it is very important to take into account a message, in principle as simple as it is obvious, like what this sentence expresses.
14. No woman can say she is free when she has no control over her own body (Margaret Sanger)
Many women are forced by their partner to have sex although they do not want or generate pain and suffering, which is often hidden or even the person does not consider it to be an assault. sexual because she thinks whoever does is your spouse or partner.
18. I have seen mentally ill men unable to ask for help for fear of not being seen as “men”. I’m upset that men can’t cry (Emma Watson)
The young actress expresses in this sentence the fact that, although in a much lower proportion, some men also suffer from violence from their partner and usually do not come out out of fear of social rejection.
19. A man’s violence against his partner is invisible except when reported; invisible to all except the children who run the risk of perpetuating it, them as aggressors, them as submissive victims (Jacobo Durán)
Gender-based violence does not only affect the person directly affected by the violence. If there are children, they will be secondary victims or sometimes even instruments to commit violence against the spouse. They are also exposed to a parenting pattern that could be replicated in the future. They also have to fight to get out of the situation of violence.
20. Defend your life, fight for your independence, seek your happiness and learn to love – (Izaskun González)
Phrase intended for all people who are subjected to gender violence, and who seek to wake up and make them seek to get out of their situation.
21. Where someone fights for their dignity, for equality, to be free … look them in the eye (Bruce Springsteen)
Receiving abuse and living in subjugation generates great suffering and suffering, and breaking up with the partner or solving what we need to change is often a great difficulty. That is why we must recognize and validate the efforts and courage of those who are struggling to achieve it.
22. Violence does not only kill the other. There is violence when we use an aggressive word, when we make a gesture of contempt towards a person, when we obey because we are afraid (Jiddu Kirshnamurti)
Although the original sentence encompasses other types of violence, this sentence is clearly applicable to gender-based violence. And it’s not just physical violence or death: insults, harassment, coercion and threats are just some of the other types of violence that it includes.
23. Violence is the last resort of incompetent people (Isaac Asimov)
A phrase also used to condemn gender-based violence makes it clear that violence is the result of a lack of ability to manage the relationship with the other.
24. Labeling gender-based violence as a woman’s problem is part of the problem. He gives a lot of men the perfect excuse not to be careful (Jackson Katz)
Although there is growing awareness at the social level, the truth is that it has often been observed that there is a tendency to view the fight against gender violence as something specific to the community. female gender. But putting an end to this scourge is everyone’s business.
25. Today as yesterday, women must refuse to be submissive and gullible, because concealment cannot serve the truth (Germaine Greer)
The absolute submission that tradition imposed on women towards men has often been used as an excuse for the exercise of violence, this submission being something that must change for the better. guarantee freedom and prevent and prevent abusive relationships.
26. Every 15 seconds a woman is attacked in the world, every 15 seconds a man ceases to be (Jorge Moreno Pieiga)
Gender-based violence is a problem that unfortunately continues to occur day by day and that we must strive to tackle.
27. There is no barrier, lock or bolt you can impose on my freedom of mind (Virginia Woolf)
The famous writer leaves us a sentence in which she expresses that our mind is and must be free, And that we must fight to reverse the taxes they want to pour into it. It pushes us to be strong and to fight against violence to regain freedom.
28. To be free is not only to let go of one’s own chains, but to live in a way that enhances and respects the freedom of others (Nelson Mandela)
This phrase prompts us to seek to improve the situation of those around us, which includes combating violence against them and against them.
29. Hitting a woman is not a cultural thing, it is a crime and it should be directed and treated as such (Hillary Clinton)
Sometimes, some aggressors and even some victims justify the violence by considering it as “normal”, considering that their actions are not negative having been authorized in the past. But the fact that in ancient times ill-treatment was not so persecuted does not imply anything: ill-treatment will never cease to be so and must be treated and combated as such.
30. Coach and teach young men how to be men so that they do not degrade or abuse girls and women (Jackson Katz)
Jackson Katz is a well-known writer, filmmaker and educator who has created several gender-based violence prevention programs. One of the points that this author emphasizes is that one of the pillars to prevent possible situations of violence is education without gender stereotypes that subject women to men or as a sexual object.
31. When they tried to shut up I called (Teresa Wilms)
It is important to note that sometimes people who suffer from some form of gender-based violence are not listened to, they are vilified and even held responsible for what happened. But just because someone isn’t listening to us doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep fighting to live free.
32. I don’t want to feel brave when I go out on the street. I want to feel free
Many people, especially women, express that just going out alone generates fear and insecurity in the face of the high prevalence of sexist attitudes and even sexual harassment (and in some cases abuse and assault). This causes them great distress and tension. No one wants to live in fear.
33. It is very common for women to think that enduring abuse and cruelty, then forgiving and forgetting, is a sign of commitment and love. But when we love well, we know the only healthy, loving response to abuse is to stay away from those who hurt us (Bell Hooks)
Many victims decide to give the abuser another chance, with a somewhat distorted idea that the forgiveness of these acts or the repentance that many abusers show after the act of abuse is a sign of their love. But authorizing and forgiving these acts over and over again only leads to a pattern being repeated over and over again, without changing anything, causing the violence against them to continue.
34. I will not be a free woman as long as there are submissive women (Audre Lorde)
This sentence pushes us to fight against gender violence even if we do not experience it ourselves, helping to eliminate this scourge from our society.
35. Don’t whistle at me, I’m not a dog
When we talk about gender-based violence, we are not just talking about beatings, rapes or insults. Vexatious and reifying attitudes can also be seen as such. We must always respect the dignity of others.
36. Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid of being killed by men (Margaret Atwood)
A blunt phrase that fundamentally reflects the plight of many victims of gender violence: while the abusive side is afraid of losing power and being humiliated, the victim fears death, loneliness or worthlessness herself.
37. You are not alone
Victims of gender-based violence often feel a great sense of inner emptiness and loneliness, partly because of their estrangement from the rest of the environment to which the abuser usually subjects them and partly because they do not dare to accept. and explain their situation. to anyone. However, and as can be seen in the various marches and demonstrations, the abused person is not alone but has the support of thousands of peopleSome of which have gone through the same situation.
38. And it all started the day he made me believe that his jealousy was love … (Laura Església Sant Martí)
Abusers often resort to violence when they believe they are in danger of losing power over the victim or in order to gain dominance. And they can also often try to justify their attitudes and jealousy as a sign of love, even if it is not simple possessiveness and insecurity.
39. Personal, private and lonely pain is more terrifying than anyone can inflict it (Jim Morrison)
The suffering of the person suffering from gender-based violence is usually experienced alone, often without the victim expressing it with others and even without expressing it from the outside when they are alone. Sometimes he even tries to deny the situation to avoid going through it. But all of this is accentuated and prolongs his pain and suffering.
40. Without equality there is no love
In love and relationshipsAn essential part is the perception by both parties of an equality in the rights and capacities of each, being both equivalent although different and there are no relations of superiority and inferiority.
41. The two sexes are neither inferior nor superior to each other. They are just different (Gregorio Marañón)
This sentence tells us that there are still differences between the two sexes, this in no way implies that one is superior to the other.
42. I don’t accept the things I can’t change, I change the things I can’t accept (Angela Davis)
Phrase that pushes us to break down barriers and stereotypes to change things and prevent cases of gender violence from happening, without giving up or considering that this violence is impossible to change.
43. Woman, beware of verbal abuse, do not allow words like “put your face out”; useless, complex, null, ignorant, ridiculous, etc … these attributes hide a clear violence that will soon manifest itself – (Antón García Abril)
This sentence tells us how often the first step in the emergence of gender-based violence is to make derogatory comments that place the victim in a position inferior to the abuser.
44. There is no reason in a cry. He never wins what he can. Speak, you are not an animal (José de Eusebio)
The composer and musician José de Eusebio makes us see in this sentence the need to respect the dignity of the other, in clear allusion to the verbal and psychological abuses to which many people are subjected, whether there is aggression or not. middle.
45. Love never strikes (Laura Sant Martí Church)
A simple sentence but with a big message: violence will never be a sign of love.
46. To call women of the weaker sex is a slander: it is the injustice of the man towards the woman (Mahatma Gandhi)
Consideration of women as inferior human beings and subordinate to men is one of the cultural elements that have facilitated the emergence of attitudes that can lead to gender-based violence.
47. The animals of the world are there for their own reasons. They weren’t made for humans, the same way black people weren’t made for whites, nor women for men (Alice Walker)
men and women are independent human beings, who do not necessarily need the presence of the other to subsist, and life is not subject to the will of the other.
48. Sometimes you have to forget how you feel and remember what you deserve (Frida Kahlo)
The abuser’s feelings often make it difficult for the victim of gender-based violence to seek help. or decide to forgive continually. However, these feelings collide with reality: the person they want is causing them pain. We all need to remember what we deserve as human beings: to be free and to seek our own happiness.
49. With the headband, I made a bow in my hair. Now I’m prettier and less blind (Sara Mussol)
This phrase expresses to us the need to remove the blindfold and accept the fact that what the person who hurts us is mistreating us. This moment when the victim realizes is what allows them to seek help and fight for a better life free from violence.
50. Every wounded, assaulted, murdered woman is a silent and powerless witness to the worst that shuts down human beings: of the triumph of brute force, blind, savage, sick, over all feelings, over all thoughts, in particular over what makes us worthy. Let’s call it enough (David del Port)
These sentences reflect that gender-based violence is, at heart, a failure of humanity to develop a society in which we all have equal rights and can be respected, as well as to deal with our own brutality.
51. Violence never enters a heart (Jean Baptiste Molière)
Again, a sign that those who use violence against us don’t want us. It is necessary to understand this fact in order to be able to fight it.
52. If he mistreats you and you do nothing, you let him (Montserrat Delgado)
This sentence does not hold the attacked person responsible for their situation, but it does indicate that it is up to the victim themselves to find a solution.
53. I encourage men and children around the world to join us. Gender-based violence will only be eradicated when we all refuse to tolerate it. (Ban Ki-moon)
Once again, the former Secretary-General of the United Nations calls not only on women but also on men to eliminate gender-based violence in our societies.
54. Never offer your heart to someone who eats hearts, to someone who believes heart meat is delicious and not uncommon, to someone who sucks liquids drip and who, chin bloodied, smiles at you (Alice Walker)
This unpleasant and blunt phrase never ceases to express the need not to engage in a relationship in which one’s own pain and suffering and does. keeping the person controlled and dominated is for the other reason pleasure and satisfaction.
55. Racial, gender, sexual and other forms of discrimination and violence cannot be eliminated without culture change (Charlotte Bunch)
For gender-based violence to disappear and be prevented, action must be taken not only where it occurs, but also socially and in the community: the population must be educated in equality and mutual respect.
56. Equality is a vital necessity of the human soul. The same amount of respect and attention is due to every human being, because respect has no degrees (Simone Weil)
We are all equally worthy and admirable regardless of our gender, gender, skin color, sexual orientation, race or beliefs.
57. One in three women may experience abuse or violence in her lifetime. It is an abominable violation of human rights, but it remains one of the most invisible and least known pandemics of our time (Nicole Kidman)
Again there are more and more cases of denunciation and awarenessThe truth is, gender-based violence remains a problem that those who suffer from it (and those who practice it) tend to hide for a long time. This is usually an invisible problem until it becomes extremely obvious, and sometimes not even perceived as such by the victims.
58. The sex is between the ears and not between the legs (Chaz Bono)
This phrase helps make us understand that men and women are equally capable of living our lives, gender being something that is not dependent on the sexual apparatus we have.
59. My body is mine!
The woman has often been objectified as a sexual object, and in many cases of gender-based violence, the perpetrator has felt that she has the right to dispose of the victim’s body for her own sexual satisfaction, regardless of the condition. will of the victim. No one has the right to dispose of another person’s body, mind or sexuality without their consent.
60. You can break my hand, but never see it
A voice that encourages us to fight, to fight to change things and eradicate violence from our lives.
61. Our men believe that earning money and giving orders are the basis of power. They don’t believe that the power is in the hands of a woman who takes care of everyone during the day and gives birth (Malala Yousafzai)
This young activist expresses with her sentence the need to value and not to underestimate the importance of women regardless of their social or professional situation.
62. On the other side of the emergency phone, it’s not just the end of abuse, it’s the life you stopped living
As this sentence from an awareness campaign tells us, asking for help is a key step in getting out of a situation of abuse and starting to live again.
63. Do not skip the panels. Choose to live (Ministry of Health, Social Services and Equality)
This sentence comes from an awareness campaign broadcast on television in Spain, and expresses the need for the victim or the environment to be aware of the different signs (isolation, harassment, comparisons, telephone control, financial control, use of children and the environment for injuries, insults, beatings …) that a case of gender-based violence is ongoing.
64. Women are the only exploited group in history who have been idealized to the point of becoming powerless (Erica Jong)
In this case, we are talking about a type of gender violence that does not include the couple but the society: the tendency to think of the woman as a weak, fragile and incapable child which makes her prejudiced, used and underestimated.
65. You think that if he doesn’t love you, you are worthless. You think if he doesn’t want you anymore he’s right, you think his opinion of you must be right. You think that if he rejects you, it is because you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you feel you belong to him. No. “Belong” is a bad word, especially when using it with someone you love. Love shouldn’t be like this (Toni Morrison)
Again in this sentence we see how victims of gender violence they tend to have a very bad opinion of themselvesAn opinion that the aggressor himself generally generates and reinforces to keep him submissive and under his control.
It makes them think that they have need the aggressor and that they are due to him, that in fact they are lucky that this person is with them (a belief often also explicit by the aggressor himself) or they will be left alone and they cannot be happy. These thoughts must be fought.
66. Gender-based violence arises from the darkest part of the human being and does not need to be hidden, suffered or concealed. You have to cry out with courage and energy: “Enough is enough !!! (Zulema de la Cruz)
This pianist and composer shows us with her phrase the need to externalize, treat and fight gender violence.
67. If you are detained, insulted, assaulted, beaten or threatened, do not be confused. This is not love.
Acts like the ones mentioned above will never be a gesture of love, no matter how hard they try to disguise themselves as such.
68. My silence has not protected me. Your silence will not protect you (Audre Lorde)
This sentence aims to push the victim of gender violence to denounce their situation, to fight to change it. Silencing it will not make the problem go away, it will only prolong it.
69. Against gender-based violence, zero tolerance
A slogan of an awareness advertising campaign expresses the need to take into account the gravity of the situation from the start and not to tolerate any kind of violent situation or action.
70. Why keep silent if I was born screaming? (Faculty of Education of the University Campus of Soria)
This sentence expresses the need to make our voice heard against gender violence, to express the suffering and pain of those who suffer it and to express our repulsion in the face of this type of aggression.
71. No one asked me how my abuser dressed
Often many victims of sexual abuse and assault they are questioned and blamed from the situation to the point of questioning – even how they were dressed at the time, so that it seems to imply that the assault was their fault or their responsibility. This causes great harm to the victim, who may not report or even believe that they are really responsible for what happened.
72. In any relationship you have, you don’t deserve someone who doesn’t love you, much less someone who hurts you (Walter Riso)
As in the previous sentences, this author evokes the fact that the one who harms us does not deserve us, which must certainly lead us to distance ourselves from the aggressor.
73. Neither the blows that hurt, nor the words that hurt
This sentence illustrates two of the most common: the use of aggression and harassment. as a method of victim submission gender-based violence.
74. We are the cry of those who no longer have a voice
The demonstrations and marches that are organized there allow social reflection on a reality that in everyday life most people generally do not take too much into account and which nevertheless takes the lives of thousands of people every year.
75. Violence is not a force. It is the abuse of force (Michel Lancelot)
A sentence that includes all kinds of violence, tells us that violence is always an abuse that makes the abuser part of a power or a type of relationship that he has in relation to the other.
76. Fears are black and darken horizons, so we must let ourselves be guided by experts (Raimunda de Penyafort)
One of the main reasons that many victims of gender-based violence do not report it is fear. Fear of retaliation, the future without the aggressor, the legal process that may ensue, possible loneliness or the reaction of the environment, among others. This fear can paralyze the victim, which is why it can be very useful to seek help from different types of professionals (police, social services, legal and criminal services, doctors, psychologists, social workers …)
77. The world is bigger than a closed fist
A sentence clear enough to express the need for the assaulted person to break the link with his attacker and escape the violence, having a whole world to discover beyond the abuse.
78. Don’t deal with abuse
Gender-based abuse and violence must be eradicated, without tolerating at any time or making concessions. It is common that after a specific violent action the abuser promises to change and will not do so again, but in most cases it becomes a spiral of abuse, promises and relapses into abuse that does not take hold. end only if it intervenes or if the victim decides to do so. change the situation.
79. Don’t give up, please don’t give in. Even if the cold burns, even if fear bites, even if the sun hides and the wind blows, there is still fire in your soul, there is still life in your dreams (Mario Benedetti)
While this poem is not done with gender violence in mind, it is applicable to this theme: many victims end up giving up and view change as impossible. This is why it is essential to remember that there is no need to give up and that there is always hope and life after exiting violence.
80. Your fight is my fight
Finally, we leave you with this little sentence in which you simply remind the assaulted person that they are not alone, that their struggle and their suffering is everyone’s.
- General Society of Authors and Publishers (sf). Authors against gender violence.