The notion of infidelity behind this word is for most couples a source of worry and fear, to the point that it can lead to the appearance of jealousy (justified or not) and even serious couple conflicts. It is an act which, except with prior agreement (eg having an open relationship), is generally experienced as a betrayal of the relationship, being to find one’s partner in bed the nightmare of many and many.
However, some people may find the fact that their partner has relationships with other people erotic, to the point that a trend is emerging in this regard: the so-called cuckolding or cuckqueaning.
Cuckolding: concept of this sexual modality
The concept of cuckold, rough translation would be something like “Put the horns” or “be unfaithful”, Also designates today a tendency or a sexual practice based on obtaining a sexual gratification by the observation or the history of your partner maintaining relations with a third person.
Technically, cuckold would refer to the practice in which a man gets sexual satisfaction from watching his partner have sex with another man, while cuckold would be the case for women who get horny seeing their partner with another man. wife. In general, however, the cuckold is generally more common (i.e. the watcher is male).
In couples where this practice is practiced, the part that does not maintain sex he finds it gratifying and exciting that his partner has them with another person and he can see it, Or ask your partner to tell you about the meeting. This can subsequently arouse passion between the two members and serve as a booster for the joint sex life. It is also not impossible for masturbatory behaviors to appear during observation / narration.
Many couples find this practice satisfying, generates emotions and improves their joint sex life. It turns out, however, that this is something that has been agreed upon and that both parties have free access to, without pressure of any kind and without being forced to please the other party.
Although rare, cuckolding is a normative sexual activity and can be an experience for those who really want to put it into practice. Nevertheless, when it supposes the unique or practically the unique cause of sexual excitement for the observer and generates a discomfort or an interference to him in its habitual operation it can be constituted like a paraphilia, denominated troilismo.
Booming practice, previously rejected
In recent times, cuckolding / cuckqueaning has spread among the population, becoming a trend and making your way between usual sexual fantasies.
However, far from being a majority practice. This is not a practice for everyone: it assumes that the couple is going to have sex with another person and it is unpleasant for many people.
In fact, until relatively few years ago, it was a practice socially rejected by the majority of society. And is cuckolding a practice that it has been misunderstood, like many other sexual tendencies.
For example, it has some connection with the idea of trading pairs, being a similar concept. In this case, the couple accepts the situation in advance, being something accepted by both parties. It is also linked to voyeurism and exhibitionism, as part of the erotic component is watching / receiving a description of what happened or being watched / explaining the relationship.
Possible causes of the onset of arousal
Seeing another man or woman having sex with their partner is sexually arousing, something that may seem strange to many people, and the meaning has been tried to be explained by several authors.
One of the existing theories proposes that part of the excitement may be due to the fact that when the sexual partner has sex with another, it breaks with the social norm of monogamy. The pleasure would come from the challenge to which it stipulates. Still in the case of couples in which the inactive part is present seeing the situation, the subject can visualize the fantasy while having a certain control of the situation.
Another perspective has a more biological character, and the excitement can be derived from behavior observed in several animal species: When in internally reproducing species a male mates with a female paired with another male and this interaction is observed, in many cases he proceeds to copulate with the female in order to interfere with the copulating sperm previous. This is called sperm competition. In addition, different research seems to show that human semen is of better quality and is produced in greater quantities in competitive situations with other competitors. This latter theory, while viable, does not explain the reason for cuckqueaning.