Our sexuality begins to develop from our birth and evolves over the years. This biological strategy is influenced by a whole host of factors that include our anatomy, psychology, physical conditions, and hormonal levels. The sum and the interdependence of these elements lead us to develop the sexual impulse.
As we know it, sexuality is quite a complex subject and it is impossible to understand it only from its reproductive functionin its expression are added a series of different affective factors, desires, attitudes, behaviors, fantasies, etc.
Moreover, we sometimes forget the influence that the Catholic Church has had on sexuality for hundreds of years. But, not only does Catholicism condition our vision of sex and everything that surrounds it, indeed having a faith or a religious belief is not incompatible with living a full sexual life. However, the amount of misinformation we find on the internet, movies, and TV shows, not to mention the way pornography portrays sexual encounters, leads to the formation and maintenance of many false beliefs. Many young people are currently cultivating myths that have no scientific support or basis.
To gain a full understanding of human emotional relationships and our bodies, it is important to debunk common myths surrounding sexual health and sexuality in general. In this article, we discuss the most significant misconceptions surrounding these topics.
What myths surround sexuality?
A myth is an idea that is not proven by science, but is widely believed to be true, that is, many people believe it to be true. These beliefs are often attributed, in addition, additional qualities due to their generalized use or through the dominant culture. How they lack support or foundation is very difficult to refute.
Culture and tradition are often guided by myths and prejudices that blur people’s perception of reality. These myths can lead to unwanted or even harmful behaviors that people believe are correct when they are not. In the case of sexuality, myths can affect the development of a full sexual and emotional life and even lead to the maintenance of risky behaviors with consequences for sexual health.
Correcting these myths involves disseminating information that is clear, easy to understand and accessible to everyone. In addition, the transmission of sex education that provides useful knowledge about sexuality and allows the development of a healthy, responsible and enjoyable sex life is vital.
1. In the sexual sphere, there are normal and abnormal behaviors
The word normal can refer to many things, but it often includes meeting a certain standard. In the field of sexuality, subjectivity plays a fundamental role, as what is considered normal can vary greatly from person to person. For example, if we take two different groups of people, one may judge different sexual behaviors as normal and the other may not.
2. The bigger the penis, the better
The belief that penis size influences the quality of sexual encounter is deeply embedded in society. This happens because the length of the member is directly related to the concept of “masculinity” that exists in today’s world. But, the reality is that size has no direct correlation to pleasure that can be obtained during sexual intercourse, other factors such as arousal or the size of the vagina must be taken into account.
3. Premature ejaculation is a matter of inexperience
It is true that premature ejaculation can happen more often the first few times because the nerves and excitement when maintaining sex can influence a person to ejaculate sooner than desired. However, adults can also suffer from this type of dysfunction and there are treatments that can help treat it.
4. The hymen is broken when virginity is lost
Virginity is defined as the state of someone who has never had sex. However, the concepts of sex and virginity vary between people. Moreover, talking about “losing one’s virginity” and apprehending the sexual experience as a loss of something are notions that must evolve.
The hymen is a thin membrane that sits at the entrance to the vagina. In general, there is a lot of confusion regarding its anatomy, many people think that it completely covers the vagina, and at some point, when stretching, it opens. However, the hymen normally already has a hole por donde passed menstruation or tampons. It is true that the rupture can occur during the first vaginal intercourse, and it can lead to a little pain or bleeding. However, it is not common, the hymen can break in other ways, usually by playing sports, or by inserting something into the vagina.
5. Only penetration leads to orgasm
false The differences in which people of different sexes reach orgasm can generate a series of erroneous expectations about how a satisfying sexual encounter will occur. Although some people with vaginas can achieve orgasm through penetration, most people get it through clitoral stimulation through other practices such as masturbation or oral sex. Communicating effectively with the sexual partner and talking about what is expected of the relationship helps to identify what the other person needs and what they consider to be a satisfying encounter.
6. Masturbation is for men.
even though This has been a taboo subject much more for women than for men. In reality, masturbation has more benefits than harms and, in fact, it is equally beneficial for both genders. However, it is said that men should ejaculate frequently to avoid pain in the testicles and to renew sperm; the benefits of masturbation are more of a psychological nature; improve mood and general mood.
7. Pleasure necessarily passes through the genitals
As we know, our body has different erogenous zones, stimulation of these can also lead to sexual arousal. Stimulation of the lips, neck, breasts, nipples, inner thighs, neck, ears and perineum can cause enormous pleasure. Even some people can reach orgasm without the need to stimulate the genitals.
8. You can’t have sex on your period.
This idea does not meet any health criteria. It may be that for lack of information or shame, some people prefer not to have sex during menstruation, but it does not present any risk. When it comes to lack or increase in sexual appetite, there is no universal rule., some people experience an increase due to estrogen levels and other people, on the contrary, show a decrease in libido. Sex, in some cases, can help reduce menstrual pain.
9. Only men can ejaculate
Female ejaculation also exists, although unlike the male, it does not play a role in reproduction. Women have a prostate and its function is to ejaculate; however, there is not much information about its true nature and how it should be stimulated.
10. Contraceptives cause infertility
The answer to this myth is: it depends. The most common contraceptive methods are reversible, even vasectomy can be. However, the longer the time has passed, the less likely the reversal will be to succeed. On the contrary, In most cases, tubal ligation is not reversible.
11. Aphrodisiac foods work
There is no scientific support to support this idea. It seems to have more to do with psychological suggestion than with the true effects of this type of food on sexual desire.
12. Sexual drive is more intense in men
sex always has been subject to cultural and social factors. Sexual desire has always been better perceived in men than in women, and this barrier – although to a lesser extent – is still relevant today. It is therefore difficult to really know in biology whether the sexual impulse is stronger in men than in women.
13. Sex stops being important with age.
There is no maximum age for having sex, sexuality only stops when we die. However, the ignorance of sexuality in the elderly fuels a whole series of myths, because it no longer matters.
14. Viagra is the most effective solution to treat sexual dysfunctions
Although Viagra is a drug that helps treat erectile dysfunction, it is not the only one. In addition to Viagra, there are various drugs for oral administration that act as first line against erectile dysfunction and produce few side effects. Currently also other types of treatment are recommended, such as psychological therapyto solve sexual problems.
15. Masturbation affects fertility and general health
Neither masturbating produces infertility, nor is it bad for your health. What else, masturbation offers many benefits both physical and psychological. It helps improve overall mood and some studies suggest it may help prevent the development of certain types of malignant cancers.
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