The 7 most common misconceptions about sex

Despite the wide access to information we currently have through the Internet, myths or misconceptions related to sexuality still exist which more or less condition our sexual experience.

And it is that the good availability of information does not always make our lives easier or prevent problems if this information is not suitable to be adjusted to sexist patterns or is not directly based on scientific conclusions. This is what happens on many websites with low contrast content, based on pure popular beliefs about different aspects of sexuality.

While this inadequate information can affect anyone, regardless of age, the child and adolescent population is most vulnerable to this misleading content. Once again, education becomes a key tool in countering the possible adverse effects that all of this can have.

The most common misconceptions or beliefs about sex

In our experience with sex education programs that we run in schools in different cities, we find that many of these myths are perpetuated over generations. So many of these misconceptions that many teens have now, were held by adults while they were at this point in the life cycle. In this sense, there is an indisputable perpetuation over time of sexual attitudes which, in some cases, are not desirable / healthy.

Then, we explain the myths or misconceptions that we find most often in the classroom.

1. “The first time you have sex (vaginal penetration) there is no possibility of pregnancy and it always hurts”

It must be said that there is no relationship between the first time this sexual practice is practiced and the greater or lesser probability of pregnancy, because it is the use of an effective contraceptive method that decreases the possibility of pregnancy.

Likewise, we say that the first coital relationship should not harm unconditionally for a physiological problem, because the vagina is an elastic structure capable of “accommodating” any size of penis, since it is designed among other things for that.

Yes it is true that sometimes pain can appear during this first time due to the importance that sex represents in our culture. This causes both men and women to enter the first coital relationship with high expectations which in many cases produce nervousness, anxiety and even fear (due to the onset of pain) . All this can cause a decrease in arousal in a woman (due to nervousness, fear, etc.) so that the level of lubrication decreases and therefore the onset of pain is more likely.

2. “Coitus is the most pleasurable sexual practice”

There is no biological element that allows us to confirm this claim, however there are many social conditionings that make us fall into a coitocentric view of sexuality, Or what is the same, turn sex in intercourse. In this way, this sexual practice can be as enjoyable as many others: masturbation, blowjob, etc. We can find many cases of couples who, without having sex, experience a high degree of sexual satisfaction. It will all depend on tastes and preferences.

3. “The size of the penis is very important in intercourse”

EThis belief is widespread in today’s society and is to give too much importance to the size of the penis.. Thus, it is believed that a large penis is associated with more sexual potency or even obtaining a higher level of pleasure. The truth is, height is relatively important in itself, unless a person’s tastes or preferences follow that line. In any case and in general terms, sex potency has little to do with penis size as there are many elements of the sex scene that will determine whether you feel satisfied or not.

Therefore, it is important not to fall into this obsession and to think more in terms of functionality than in terms of size, that is, to pay more attention to whether the penis is functional (if it is performs its pleasant, physiological and reproductive function) only in the centimeters it measures. If the penis is functional, the rest (size, shape, etc.) is part of a secondary plan.

4. “The man is the one who has to wear the active part of the sexual intercourse”

Gender culture has assigned some roles to men and others to women. Thus, the first must be active, take the initiative in the relationship and take responsibility for the pleasure of the woman (in the case of heterosexual relationships). Women need to be more passive and “let go”. It is important to consider that men and women have the same sexual rights and therefore assume the desired role regardless of what the culture marks.

5. “The inversion is a good method of contraception”

This practice consists of having sex without using a contraceptive method and withdrawing the penis from the vagina when the man is about to ejaculate, to come out. A more dangerous misconception is that “reversal” is an effective contraceptive method. for two reasons: first, because the man before ejaculation emits pre-seminal fluid which, although it does not contain sperm, could lead to sperm located in the urethra of past ejaculations, thus the risk of pregnancy would be important.

On the other hand, it does not protect us from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) because contact between the genitals and in particular vaginal penetration is the greatest risk route against infection (with unprotected anal).

6. “The condom or the condom takes away the sensitivity, cut the roll”

Incorporating condom use (male or female) into our sex is one of the healthiest practices. What can we do. The condom is about one millimeter thick, making the “loss” of sensitivity minimal. Going into sex thinking that the condom will take away my sensitivity has made me predisposed to it, so the attitude shouldn’t be this, but rather that I earn a lot more than I “lose” (if it does) is that I lose something) by using it.

7. “If a man loses his erection, it’s because he doesn’t see his partner as attractive”

When erection loss occurs frequently, we may raise the possibility that there is an erection problem., Which rarely makes the couple unattractive. The most common causes of this problem have to do with anxiety over whether it will happen again, fear of failure, or the desire to size up, among others.

As we see once again, training is the most effective tool to combat these beliefs. From psychological training we have been teaching a sex education instructor course for over ten years that allows the person who carries it out to carry out educational projects in secondary schools and institutes where they can work in this and other fields of sexuality.

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