the next one is the graphic representation of the curves of female and male sexual arousal. The left curve corresponds to that of men and to the right that of women.
The simplicity and speed of the male curve compared to the female curve is easily observed, as expected. We also see that at the end of the female curve there are four different options, this represents four types of orgasmic response in women.
These curves represent the arousal levels during sex. It should be noted that these representations capture the general values of the population and that each person is different and has their particular sexual response. But let’s get into the detail of the graph.
First of all, five overlapping turns are actually shown here. First the male on the left graph, followed by the female sexual response which has a common part, phases of intimacy, excitement and tension, And according to sex therapist Marina Castro, leads to four possible responses: explosive orgasm (I), multiorgasmic (M), sustained orgasm (S) and no orgasm (SO).
Male arousal curve: brief and predictable
The male curve represents the level of arousal against a background of sexual activity with genital contact. This means that if the man is genetically aroused and manipulated either by another person in a sexual relationship or by himself in a masturbation situation, his arousal response is very rapid as shown by the upward slope which culminates in orgasm, the maximum point of the graph, to descend in free fall to the basal level or zero excitation. Hence, orgasm is an end point of arousal and frequent intercourse.
Here we have an important problem and source of conflict in the couple: If the man concentrates on his arousal and his pursuit of orgasm, the party will be over for him when the woman has not even started to hear the music of a party that will have few holidays and he will end up not enjoying a sad sofa. In a few seconds we’ll have a snoring man with a childish smile and a woman at war with the desire to strangle that smile. Later we will see what can be done in this regard.
Female arousal curve: complex and intense
The female curve is much larger over time, Can develop in different ways and has several possible endings, it can even be coupled with another cycle of excitement without having completed the first one. We see that the complexity in the arousal of the woman is much greater and also it is the capacity to obtain pleasure and to enjoy the sex, being indisputable that it is the woman who dominates over the man in matters. of sexual pleasure and richness. of orgasms.
Looking at the curve, we see that the initial excitation slope is much smoother, it takes a lot longer to approach the high excitation levels. We can also observe that orgasm is different from men and sometimes or some women do not succeed and we also see that the phase of resolution is in almost all cases very different from that of the male, with a gentle fall or a cyclical recovery towards another or other orgasms.
How to measure pleasure mathematically?
This is where the math comes in. If the lines in the graph represented five possible subjects, a man and four women, who had the most fun? Some might say that those with the maximum points ie the man and the woman with an explosive orgasm. In these two cases, we find the maximum levels of excitement, but no pleasure.
Sexual pleasure is the level of arousal as long as we maintain that level and this is mathematically defined by the area of the region under the graph of each curve. But before continuing, we will give some notions of analytical calculus, one of my favorite areas of mathematics, and more particularly of integrals.
Let’s see its graphic representation:
The symbol that looks like an elongated S is the integral symbol. f (x) is the mathematical function with which the curve of the graph is represented, b are the starting and ending points between which the integral is bounded, d (x) is a mathematical term which refers to the independent variable and which you can be thankful that she does not explain as she is beyond the purpose of this article, and I assure you that she is very far from any relationship with any orgasm. But here we go. Can we do a mathematical analysis of sexual pleasure and orgasm?
If we analyze the curve of sexual arousal shown at the beginning, we see that the sexual pleasure is the integral of the function of the curve between points a and b, where a = 0, starting point in time and b is the final point to integrate, where the excitation returns to the initial level and the curve decreases towards the lower axis or of the abscissas.
Which gender dominates in bed?
If we mathematically measure the sexual pleasure of men and women, there is no doubt that women are the stronger sex.
If we call fh the function represented by the graph of the sexual arousal of the man and fm that of the woman, we must:
This means that according to our graph, the pleasure obtained by one of the women represented regardless of her orgasmic resolution is greater than the short pleasure obtained by the man.
All of this suggests several things:
- The male priority in the relationship should be the pursuit of pleasure and not an orgasm as it is a brief moment of strong excitement that follows with a sudden drop that ends the relationship and the pleasure itself.
- Maximum sexual pleasure in the couple it is achieved by equalizing male and female curvesIt is a man’s job primarily to focus on his partner’s arousal and forget or rather run away from his own orgasm.
Also keep in mind that only 25% of women experience a safe orgasm during sex, and knowing the terrible orgasmic consequences of sex, there is something else you need to think about.
Coupling of male and female sexual response
After studying the different sexual reactions of men and women, we can understand many of the issues that we may face personally as well as the opinions that people may have about sex based on their particular experience. We can even understand collectives or conceptions of sexuality across history and across cultures.
But how do you make sex as enjoyable as possible for women and men? The first thing to work on is the inclination of the male curve to approach the female, so the man should avoid focusing on your arousal and genitals to focus on your partner’s excitement. At this point, it is handy for the man to find the secret to his wife’s arousal and it is very simple: ask her what he likes!
It is very likely that she is turned on by the words, by the stories or fantasies, by the hugs, the kisses to the extent and intensity that she tells you. This gentle arousal curve will increase, and from there the man should avoid his own orgasm. Remember that male orgasm is the abrupt end of male arousal and usually marks the end of intercourse, so an important recommendation for mutual sexual pleasure is: male orgasm should be “ go after that. of the woman ”.
Simultaneous orgasm as a goal is one of the great myths of sexuality, it can be achieved after a lot of experience and bonding in the relationship, but that shouldn’t be the goal.
As we have already indicated, the longer the levels of intimacy, arousal and especially sexual tension are maintained, the larger the graphs over time and the greater the integral. If we represent this mathematically, we see that the maximum sexual pleasure (Pmax) is equal to the sum of the maximum pleasure of the man and the woman, it is the pleasure obtained during the maximum time (tmax), where the pleasure of the two is almost identical and here is the long-awaited formula for maximum sexual pleasure:
I hope this mathematical approach to sex has been suggestive, pleasurable, and possibly arousing.