When we fall in love with someone or feel at least some sort of attraction towards a man or a woman, what we would most like in the world would be for it to match us, that is, we feel the same. thing we feel for him or her.
There aren’t a few times that love isn’t reciprocated, hurting most mortals deep in our souls, but having a little group that’s precisely what they want.
There are people who are drawn to these people who are not their match, and as soon as they seem to, they stop caring. They are lithsexual people, people with a curious pattern of sexuality which we will discuss below.
What is it to be lithsexual?
Sex has been a taboo subject in our society for a long time, so much so that today we continue to be amazed by some of the discoveries scientists make about human sexual behavior.
While in the past heteronormality was considered the only healthy form of sexual behavior, today we understand that homosexuality, bisexuality and asexuality are other equally healthy realities, although there is still a long way to go and many prejudices to reverse.
Any professional who deals with the treatment of sexually dysfunctional diseases, both in men and in women, should know the different sexual inclinations as well as paraphilias of all kinds. It is only possible to offer good treatment by understanding that sexual behavior is diverse and take an open view of the problems that patients may present.
One of the lesser known sexual behaviors is lithsexuality. This is a model of atypical sexual behavior and is that in fact, people who identify as lithsexuals have a rather particular behavior towards people to whom they feel attraction: their desire is kept alive as long as the other person does not match them. . This word is considered synonymous with lithosexual, lithromantic, littoral, acoisexual and acromantic.
A lithsexual person is anyone who feels a desire or attraction for another human being, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, but does not wish to have a “real” or consumed relationship. If at some point the person you are attracted to starts giving signals that you want to fulfill that desire, then something really curious is happening: the lithsexual ceases to be attracted to this person. His desire is based on Platonic love, and if that Platonic love becomes real, the desire simply ceases to exist.
Understanding this, we can understand that lithsexuality is a bit ironic. While most people dream that the person they fall madly in love with will someday match them, lithsexuals seem to want the exact opposite. When lithsexuals are attracted to someone, they don’t need that person to correspond with them and, in fact, the situation of rejection or indifference on the other’s part is even stimulating for them, maintaining that desire or attraction for the other person without any mutual attraction.
Unlike idealized love, in which there is little hope that it will someday come true, the lithsexual person feels satisfaction simply because they want someone without being wanted. He doesn’t want or need anything else, because if he did, the magic would go away. There is no frustration or discomfort, as the lithsexual is not interested in successfully conquering the person they are interested in. There is also no masochism, because it does not seek suffering.
Origin of the term ‘lithsexuality’ and symbolism
According to the curiosity of its associated behavior, the term “lithsexual” has an equally interesting etymological origin. It is the combination of the Greek word “lith”, which means “stone”, with the sexual ending.
It’s a bit of a mystery why this particular word was chosen to describe this particular behavior, but it can be inferred that stone is a narrative resource, a way of describing the person to whom the attraction is felt. He or she, what stone, he does not realize that there is someone who feels an intense attraction to him or her.
People who identify as lithsexuals have their own symbol, consisting of a flag with five colored stripes, each with its own meaning:
- Red: society, vitality and sensitivity
- Orange: the color chosen to identify lithsexuality.
- Yellow: diversity of attraction. It represents camaraderie, loyalty and honor.
- White: idealism and sexuality.
- Black: the romantic and the asexual.
Asexuality: the variant in men
As we have explained what lithsexuality is, this term applies to anyone regardless of their gender identity. Whether masculine, feminine or non-binary, the lithsexual is one who feels an attraction towards someone who does not correspond to him.
However, it seems that in recent years this word has become popular to refer to women who exhibit this behavior more than men.
As there have been people who have considered that the term “lithsexual” can involve some confusion and is not generalizable to all gender identities, it was considered necessary to invent a new word, in this case of preferred use for men: akoisexual or acoisexual. Acosexuals, like those who identify as lithsexuals, constitute an organized collective that has its own flag, values and principles.
Lithsexuality, acoisexuality and erectile dysfunction
There is no need to think that lithsex and acoisexual people don’t need to have sex. That they dream of platonic loves and that they stop feeling interest when they are reciprocal should not make us think that they experience sexual aversion or that such people do not enjoy in fornication the most total. Quite the opposite, as there may be times when they feel interest in having sex but unfortunately do not give up due to a sexual problem.
Whether a lithsexual person suffers from erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, Peyronie’s disease, vaginismus, or some other sexual dysfunction may seem a little unimportant. One wonders how bad it can be that a person with this particular predisposition cannot use their genitals well if in the end they will not use them with another person.
In fact, this is not true, because people with this type of sexuality will use their sexual organs, especially when they dream of that person with whom they are feeling attraction, love and desire at the moment. .
It is for this reason that any professional in sexology or who addresses sexual dysfunctions in one way or another should be made aware of lithsexuality, understanding that there are people who, even if they do not have sex with other individuals or whose love interest disappears when they see that they match, are individuals who continue to have sexual interests and that they must be satisfied alone.
- Sexuality (sf). Lithsexuality. LaSexualidad.com. Retrieved from: https://lasexualidad.net/lithsexualidad/