Sexuality is a very broad aspect of the human condition. This is an area that can significantly affect our quality of life because sex is a very important part of our health and happiness.
A bad relationship, problems in bed, doubts about one’s sexual identity and other similar problems are the source of dissatisfaction and unhappiness for many people.
Sexology is a discipline that deals with the study of human sexual behavior in order to understand how to solve the problems related to it and improve the quality of life of people. Below we will look in depth what is sexology for?.
Functions and applications of sexology
It is the specialty of health that deals with sexuality and includes aspects such as reproduction, sexual identity, gender identity, orientation of sexual desire and other related factors. Additionally, sexology is responsible for dealing with different sexual dysfunctions, paraphilias, and partner issues.
Sex is a very important aspect of most people’s lives, so any problem related to it can greatly affect our quality of life, which makes sexology very important for health.
How do sexologists help?
We cannot understand in depth what sexology is without delving into the professional who practices it: the sexologist. Sexologists are usually psychologists who specialize in sexologyprofessionals with the corresponding degree in psychology, usually in clinical orientation, who, after obtaining their degree or license, have completed postgraduate studies on human sexuality, sexual behavior disorders and the appropriate therapies for their treatment.
The figure of the sexologist, although unknown to the greatest number, is of crucial importance for enjoy a full and satisfying sex life. The advice of sexologists is very useful not only in terms of pleasure, pleasure and mutual understanding, but also in aspects that involve a change of stage: pregnancy, parenthood, retirement, beginning of a romantic relationship, serious illness, menopause… Probably the area of work that sexologists are best known for is erotic counseling.
Sexologists help couples overcome relationship problems in intimate life. These problems are not limited to problems such as premature ejaculation or vaginismus, but also add a little passion, creativity and drive to relationships, teaching you new ways to enjoy your sex life. With regard to this aspect, these professionals are doing a wonderful job in trying to eliminate labels and dysfunctional beliefs about sexual life as a couple.
When should you go to a sex therapist?
It is recommended to go see a sex therapist when we feel uncomfortable about a problem related to our sexuality, whether we have a partner or not. This discomfort can be related to sexual orientation, lack of desire, anxiety or fear when meeting people of the desired sex, or any other reason. You can go see a sex therapist get out of doubt, identify the cause of discomfort and receive psychological treatment to enjoy greater well-being in our sexual life, alone or accompanied.
Some main reasons why you usually go to see a sex therapist:
- Premature ejaculation.
- Decreased sexual desire.
- Orgasmic disability: women who do not reach orgasm.
- Selective anorgasmia: it is not possible to achieve orgasm with one sexual partner, but with others or during masturbation.
- Ejaculation disorder: men who do not ejaculate, usually due to anxiety associated with a partner’s pregnancy or illness.
- Lack of information or misconceptions about sex: importance of penis size, sexually transmitted diseases, sexual practices…
- Pain in vaginal penetration.
- Fertility issues.
Although these problems are properly treated by sexologists, Many people do not dare to consult them out of fear or shame.. For example, if we have premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. What patients with these problems do first is see a doctor, which makes perfect sense and helps us rule out possible medical issues. However, once the physiological causes of these problems have been ruled out, patients are afraid to go to a sexologist, despite the obvious psychological origin of their illness.
It is exactly the time it takes to decide to consult a sex therapist one of the main obstacles these professionals face when dealing with their patients’ problems.
As their problem is related to their intimate life, many patients do not feel comfortable talking to a stranger, which forces them to take the time to seek professional help if they end up doing so. This is counterproductive for two reasons: first, the problem may get worse over time; and second, the longer it takes to seek help, the longer it takes and the longer it takes to find a solution.
If in the end the patient decides to go to the sexologist, both alone and accompanied, he will receive the help of a professional who will take care of his emotional and sexual life and will benefit him by fulfilling the following three functions:
Sex therapists help people by providing scientific information about normal sexual behavior and healthy sexuality in general. Through them, we can learn more about human sexual functioning and help us distinguish between truthful information about sex and those that are part of the many sexual myths that exist, such as the emphasis on the male member. or the belief that there are sexual practices of vaginal penetration. which, “well done”, prevents pregnancy.
Coming from sexology, as we have mentioned, it is intended to treat various dysfunctions. This is achieved focus on the four phases of the sexual cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Sexologists act by detecting at what point in the sexual cycle their patients present problems, by being able to detect what are the causes and to offer them solutions.
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