The field of sexuality is fundamental for psychological well-being and directly influences our ability to be happy.
But precisely because of this, it can also lead to very significant problems in terms of quality of life. In fact, even people who are asexual and do not have the desire to have sex or to have a partner can develop forms of discomfort in this facet of their life: insecurities, doubts that lead to feelings of loss. guilt, etc.
Fortunately, therapeutic strategies capable of helping people overcome this type of disorder have now been developed. In this article we will focus on the psychological aspects after sexual dysfunction and we will see why it is important to undergo therapy to correct the latter, sexual dysfunctions.
The importance of undergoing therapy for sexual dysfunctions
Sexual dysfunctions are recurring phenomena that appear during sexual intercourse that prevent enjoyment or directly generate discomfort and / or pain. Additionally, they can have physical, psychological, or both causes, and it is very common for those who suffer from them to believe that their problem is organic in nature but is in fact fundamentally mental / emotional.
On the other hand, there are sexual dysfunctions that affect both sexes, and others that only affect women or men, being related to their genitals. In any case, many of them share different aspects.
Healthcare professionals treat sexual dysfunction in two ways. On the one hand, there are medical interventions, which aim to solve organic problems, and on the other hand, forms of intervention based on behavioral and psychological processes. We will focus here on the latter type of intervention.
Common sexual dysfunctions in consultation
These are several of the sexual dysfunctions that are most often treated in a psychological, sexual and couple therapy center like ours, UPAD Psychology and Coaching.
- erectile dysfunction
- premature ejaculation
- Hypoactive sexual desire
- Depression after sex
On the other hand, we must not forget that they exist other psychological disorders more indirectly related to sexuality but which can also affect it a lot (no worse). As we will see, these and sexual dysfunctions can be treated: in the case of sexual dysfunctions, by sex therapy, and in other cases, by individual psychotherapy or couple therapy. Psychologists can be trained in all three of these areas, and in fact many of us do.
The different aspects of emotional and sexual life addressed in therapy
These are the main levels at which problems or unmet needs can arise both in the realm of sexuality and in that of emotional life and social interactions in the context of intimacy.
All of these can be involved in the onset of sexual dysfunction (Through psychological dynamics and learning that we internalize and fail to realize), and fortunately, can be addressed and overcome through sex therapy, psychotherapy, and couples therapy.
1. Lack of information on sexuality
This first point has to do with a basic aspect especially during youth: the need for sex education. Everyone should have access to information about sexuality, its positive aspects and its risks, which is in line with scientifically acquired knowledge and which is far removed from the myths and prejudices that often circulate in society.
In addition, this information should reach both people who initially have doubts and gaps in their knowledge, as well as children and adolescents. This reduces the risk of unfounded fears and other forms of dysfunctional anxiety that can lead to problems in people’s sex lives.
2. Doubts, insecurities and discomfort with one’s gender identity
The way our own perception of our sex life interacts, on the one hand, with the development of our self-concept (The conception of “I”), on the other hand, can lead to very harmful forms of discomfort.
This is in part due to historical stigmatizations directed against sexual lifestyles which move away from the normative, and today clearly results, for example, in discrimination against non-heterosexuals, which persists more or less. less. Even in societies considered progressive.
3. Inability to fully enjoy sex
In this group of problems we find the very symptoms of sexual dysfunctions and psychological disorders that interfere with sexuality experiences related to pain or lack of enjoyment in the act, such as anorgasmia, vaginismus or erectile dysfunction, to paraphilias which are capable of putting people in a situation of danger and / or social exclusion.
4. Problems in romantic relationships
In many ways, the emotional (referring to relationships) cannot be detached from the sexual. Therefore, it is common for problems in married life to manifest in both areas at the same time. Taboo subjects that arise in relational dynamics, asymmetries in everyone’s expectations, insecurities with one’s own body in front of the other, the fear of being vulnerable or imperfect …
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If you are considering therapy to improve some aspect of your emotional and sex life, whether through sex therapy or individual psychotherapy or couples therapy, contact our team of professionals.
Fr UPAD Psychology and Coaching we offer services that cover all aspects of well-being that have to do with emotion, sexuality, mental faculties and patterns of behavior and interaction with others, and we serve our center located in Madrid (in the district of Argüelles) only through online therapy sessions.
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