Christmas is, beyond a tradition or a religious holiday, dates that can be appreciated by believers as well as by non-believers.
Everyone, in general, lives them more or less. Indeed, he has acquired a transversal character, where one of the most important things is to be able to meet his relatives.
However, it is precisely this fact that makes the Christmas holidays special, which causes some people to have difficulty dealing with their emotions these days. Therefore, we will give below various tips to make the most of it.
Tips for enjoying and enjoying Christmas
To fully experience the potential of Christmas, follow these psychological tips.
1. Not everyone likes it, but don’t become a Gringe
It is one thing not to have a particular interest in the Christmas festivities, it is a perfectly normal and legitimate thing to do. get actively involved so that no one else appreciates them.
Not only will these dates cause you constant discomfort as you constantly compare your emotional state with that of others, but it will also make people around you prefer to avoid you and your negative attitude and have a distant or even hostile attitude. towards yourself, which will probably help you get on the defensive and put yourself on a loop to constantly reaffirm your criticisms this Christmas.
2. Remember those who are no longer there
Christmas is, for many Christians and non-Christians, a pretext to get together as a family. But beyond being an opportunity to speak, such meetings also have an emotional background when a parent has recently passed away.
In this sense, Christmas lunches and dinners can be an opportunity to remember those who are no longer there and thus make them somehow present at the meeting. It’s a great way to deal with those feelings of longing for the loss which, although they no longer translate into a duel (as it has been some time since this death), has left a significant emotional imprint that emerges in our consciousness from time to time. time, for good and for bad.
Putting words on what we are going through with these people, sharing memories, or even performing small rituals (for example, leaving an empty chair in that person’s memory) is a great way to continue the existence of that loved one and at the same time to support those who feel this loss the most, reinforcing this climate of affection and mutual support.
3. Simplify yourself before Christmas shopping
It’s no secret that Christmas is now more than just a Christian holiday, and there has been a growing consumer dynamic around it over the past few decades. This this can cause some people to feel “obligated” to buy without actually having to., just to avoid the discomfort of feeling that they haven’t done something “special” enough these days.
In this sense, it is advisable to go simple, on the one hand, and control the amount of money we should spend, on the other hand. Set a maximum spend during these dates in advance, and plan your major purchases so that they don’t exceed this number, so that you don’t have to constantly hesitate over what and how much to buy. Also, remember that gifts and token purchases can also be a powerful force in expressing love or affection. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on luxury goods or buy a lot.
But to achieve this, it is best to do your Christmas shopping as early as possible, because this way you won’t find yourself in a situation where you are hesitating at the last minute about which gifts to buy (these occasions lead us to buy very or very expensive to compensate for the lack of ideas on what the “ideal” gift is). And on the other hand, don’t worry about the idea of making the perfect gift, the intention is what matters.
4. Beware of overeating and drinking!
Christmas dinners and lunches have their own characteristics: they serve a lot of food, a lot of alcohol (it’s a very ingrained cultural dynamic) and it is possible that several of them will be made in a relatively short time.. This is why it is important to be careful about what you eat and drink. Remember that alcohol is still a drug which, although legal, harms the body if abused.
If you are considering quitting, do whatever it takes to get other drinks ahead of time, and be assertive when saying that you don’t want or shouldn’t drink alcohol. Even if there is some social pressure, you won’t be wrong to opt for other products.
5. Don’t give in to social pressure by attending events that don’t do you any good.
In accordance with the above, remember that your health comes first and that you must not give in to the social pressure generated by Christmas customs and traditions: if you have an injury and you must not move, it is better to give it priority.
If you are overcoming an addiction and you think these dinners may be leading you to relapse, it is okay to put them aside for another year. If you are a person in poor health and at risk for infection, it is also reasonable that you would prefer not to attend. Of course, don’t forget that there are currently alternatives such as video calls which can lead to small, real-time “virtual” meetings.
6. Don’t obsess over giving the perfect image
For many people, Christmas is the time of year for the first time in a long time we see people who are important to us. If this is the case for you, don’t give in to the obsession with giving the perfect image; it would hamper the relationship, making it difficult to communicate smoothly for fear of rejection.
Since Christmas is conducive to situations where emotional bonds can grow closer, take advantage of it and don’t bet on the contrary by creating a barrier between yourself and others.
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