I have anxiety: how can I explain it to those around me?

Anxiety issues don’t just cause discomfort because of the immediate experience of noticing how feelings of stress and anxiety spread throughout our body.

In addition, they put us in the complex situation of having to manage our personal relationships while undergoing this excess of anxiety, and to explain what happens to us to avoid misunderstandings, so that others can take it into account and, if so. appropriate, so that they can help us at key moments

In this article, I will offer several tips on how to explain to people around you that you have an anxiety problem on a daily basis.

    The Most Important Thing You Should Know About Anxiety Problems

    Let’s start with the key ideas that need to be understood to know what anxiety issues are. This is a term generally used to refer to a set of experiences associated with anxiety that have to do with anxiety and that rob us of more quality of life than they give us.

    On another side, anxiety is a completely natural psychological and physiological phenomenon and that most of the time it has nothing to do with any psychopathology; in fact, it is a resource that helps us survive and adapt to life’s complications, predisposing us to be vigilant in particular situations and react quickly to avoid unnecessary dangers and risks.

    However, as with any other biological or psychological trait, which is generally adaptive, it can lead to health problems (physical or mental respectively).

    Because anxiety is always related to a particular context and on the other hand is related to how we have learned to deal with emotions, almost without realizing it we can develop an inappropriate way of experiencing anxiety.

    In some cases this causes us to suffer from general discomfort caused by too high anxiety levels, and in the most extreme cases this discomfort takes a qualitative leap and is part of a psychopathology, as one of the anxiety disorders (phobias, Generalized anxiety, etc.).

    On the other hand, there are other psychopathologies that are also capable of making us too anxious: major depression, OCD, drug addiction, etc. which means all anxiety disorders with anxiety problems but not all anxiety problems are psychological disorders.

    But whether or not we have a psychological disorder that is causing our anxiety problem, what we do by interacting with the environment and managing our emotions and thoughts can help us overcome the discomfort and gain in quality of life. . Of course, in the event that we are suffering from psychopathology, it will be essential to go to therapy.

      How can I report that I am having anxiety issues?

      When communicating all about your anxiety problem to your surroundings, keep the following tips in mind.

      1. Don’t use “labels” to describe your essence.

      As we have seen, anxiety problems are always linked to a particular context and a history of previous learning, which you may have done consciously or unconsciously. which means the fact that you often feel anxious doesn’t say much about the core of your identity, nor does it describe your essence.

      Keep this in mind when explaining what is happening to you, because if you use stigmatizing labels with yourself you will predispose others to do the same. You are not an anxious person, but you are in a situation that generates anxiety issues, which may go away as they came.

        2. Use examples

        Anxiety is a complex phenomenon, and it is difficult to understand what it is to stick to abstract ideas. Better to combine them with examples and case studies of how anxiety issues affect your everyday life..

        3. Explain how what happens to you can affect your relationships.

        It is important that you also focus on the social implications of your anxiety issues. explaining this part is the most practical. Of course, if you want the other person to understand you deep down, explain yourself about other areas of your life as well.

          4. Make it clear that your reaction to anxiety spikes is not something you choose.

          Extreme anxiety has the ability to cause us to lose control of what we are doing. This is why it is important for others to understand that what we are doing right now does not represent us as much as what we are doing at another time. This will help you avoid misunderstandings.

            Are you looking for psychological support?

            If you find yourself in a complicated situation where you need professional psychological support, I invite you to contact me.

            My name is Javier Ares and I am a psychologist specializing in emotional and couple problems; I can assist you either during my consultation in Madrid or through the online therapy modality.

            Bibliographical references

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            • Goleman, D. (1996): Emotional intelligence. Barcelona, ​​Cairo.
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            • Vallès, A., and Vallès, C. (2000): Emotional intelligence: educational applications. Madrid, EOS Editorial.
            • Veeraraghavan, V. and Singh, S. (2002). Anxiety disorders: psychological assessment and treatment. New Delhi; Thousand Oaks, California: Sage Publications.

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