They say first impressions are crucial, and rightly so. Since time is gold in decision making, the first few minutes we come into contact with an unknown person will lead us to decide how much that person attracts or rejects us.
We just can’t afford to examine each person in their full depth, paying attention to all of their details and nuances, if we don’t even know if it’s worth spending our time.
Are narcissists and psychopaths more attractive?
When what we need to decide is whether or not the person in front of us is a potential partner, there is the paradox that we are trying to judge whether we can plan a life (or a few years) together from information. that we take a lot of time, with the first conversations. May be this apparent contradiction is what makes us attractive to the people we should have the least when creating joint projects.
And is that, although it seems strange, a study published in the European Journal of Personality came to the conclusion that narcissists and people with psychopathic traits have an advantage in speedy dates and are seen as more attractive than others.
The power of seduction of the dark triad
It has been known for several years that there are three personality traits which, despite a bad press and a bad impression on paper, are particularly attractive. These three personality traits form the so-called dark triad, or dark triad, and are as follows:
- Narcissism: Related to the constant search for attention, entrepreneurial action to try to please others, steadfast rejection of criticisms and messages potentially harmful to self-esteem, and the tendency to manipulate others.
- Machiavellianism: Linked to the constant pursuit of wealth, power, and fame, building long-term personal relationships aimed at manipulating others, and the cold, unbiased thinking that has spilled over on how to achieve its own benefit independent of the common welfare.
- Psychopathy: tendency to impulsivity, antisocial behavior, manipulation of others and constant search for strong emotions.
You must have noticed that these traits do not correspond very well to anything that has to do with collective projects and the establishment of common goals, which are the fundamental pillars of family stability. However, from an evolutionary standpoint, it is very possible that people who only care about themselves will have reproductive success: they just need to successfully manipulate people enough to give birth to offspring and the result. reproduce.
This way, these personality traits can be inherited from generation to generation.
In the study before us, a team of researchers wanted to see to what extent these three personality traits could be linked to greater success in a series of quick dates performed under their supervision.
How was the study conducted?
First, the researchers selected 90 people (44 men and 46 women) aged 18 to 32. Once this group of volunteers was completed, they were given a questionnaire in which their scores were measured in both the Dark Triad traits and the Big Five test personality traits (extraversion, responsibility, kindness, emotional stability). And openness to experience. ), which in other studies have been linked to success in maintaining long-term relationships.
After completing the questionnaires, the participants then made a series of quick appointments with each other. A total of 691 quick appointments were made, which lasted three minutes each. After each date, participants filled out a form in which they rated the other person on various aspects, including their physical attractiveness, the desire to start a friendship with them, and the degree to which you would be willing to have a relationship. casual sex with her.
Results: narcissists are more sought after
the scientists found a significant correlation between psychopathy scoring and narcissism and the odds of being picked or picked for short relationships, Both in men and women, regardless of their degree of physical attractiveness. That is, people who were more narcissistic and with more psychopathic traits were more desired as partners for short-term relationships. However, the correlation was reversed in the case of the Machiavellian trait.
Additionally, the results showed that women who scored higher on physical attractiveness also tended to score higher on narcissism. As expected, the physical attractiveness variable had a powerful relationship with the odds of being chosen or chosen as a partner, especially in the case of women.