Misanthropy, or hatred of everyone in general, Can come in many ways. However, it still has to do with past experiences; no one is predestined to behave badly with humanity.
Knowledge is very important because, just like “hatred towards the whole world” appears in an acquired form by learning and interpreting what is happening to us, it is also possible to unlearn, to come to terms with others.
And why would a misanthrope or a misanthrope want to change? Of course, not everyone has to wish it, but those who entered this article by title are very likely to be at least curious about the psychological mechanisms behind this phenomenon and how it can be reversed.
When others are systematically looked down upon
There are people who by default despise others or they just annoy the company. This can make them, paradoxically, feel alone and misunderstood and, moreover, notice that it affects them in their professional, student or civil facet in general.
This is why many are likely to consider breaking out of this vicious cycle of hate.
Hatred of others can be understood as a form of learned helplessness. This concept is used to designate cases in which it has been learned to dissociate what is done from what is obtained in a negative sense, that is, it has been assumed that, whatever one does, one won’t get anything good there.
In this case, what produces no benefit (or which produces more inconvenience and discomfort than pleasant experiences) is social life in general. From past experiences, it has been assumed that everyone betrays, lies or tries to take advantage of others.
In other words, we assume that others have a corrupt morality or that they are incompetent and that this is part of the essence of the majority of people, which leads to ceasing to seek joyful and uplifting experiences with others and, in many cases, to a tendency to live in relative isolation.
How to stop hating and come to terms with the rest
There are ways to turn the situation around and stop systematically hating those around us.
In cases of misanthropy based on severe trauma, it may be necessary to go to psychotherapy, but in more moderate cases where we notice that the relationship with a large number of famous people is unusually badYou can choose to change your philosophy of life yourself.
Here are some points to get started:
1. Think about the context of your memories
Imagine the memories that you think most influence your perception of others and analyzes in the context in which they occurred. It was a long time ago? Were the others all to blame? Were they really cruel, or did this idea arise out of the exaggerations that arose after this happened?
2. Make lists of positive traits
Use your imagination and think about the positive characteristics of those you dislike or hate, however strange they may seem to you. but that you think they correspond to reality.
3. Think about how you judge others
Stop thinking about how you attribute negative characteristics to others. Do you do it have all the necessary information about them? Do you take into account the context and social norms that you also follow when relating to others?
4. Analyze your expectations
What basic characteristics do you think a person should have in order for you to enjoy their company and affection? Are they reasonable or are they too specific?
5. Think from the perspective of someone good who would like to meet you.
Imagine that you are a person who meets the basic characteristics that someone should meet (in theory) to make you feel good around them. Would you be able to recognize her if you acted like you always do when meeting someone new?
6. Go further and interact with like-minded people
Force yourself to relate more to others, step out of your comfort zone. Set specific social goals (like going to a dinner party you’ve been invited to) and stick to them, make them a priority. if you start dealing with people with whom you share likes whatever your personality, you find it easier to connect with some of them. Later, you can offer to broaden your social horizons.
7. Happy people plan
Look for genuinely cheerful people and hang out with them. This way you associate the company of others with moments of humor and good times and you will be more eager to repeat the experience, so it will be more difficult to assume that you will hate others forever.