Education of values in the sports context that we develop at UPAD Psychology and Coaching generally always evolve by the same contents: respect, camaraderie, responsibility, effort, humility … Most of these values have such an intuitive name that even the youngest to teach them they succeed to give an improvised definition. However, there is one that represents the exception that proves the rule, and it is none other than that of humility.
And is sometimes even adults lack what humility is, And more: why can it be important in sport or in life, because, as he said, “too much humility is not good?”.
What is humility in sports education?
Humility is defined as knowing the extent of one’s abilities, i.e. know how good we are and how we can improve. This means that recognizing personal merit in public is not a lack of humility (perhaps it is modesty). In fact, an explicit denial of a big milestone, yes, can be interpreted, ironically, as a lack of humility.
But then is it the humility to go and tell everyone to meet me with the great watering that I did the other day? Is it humility to celebrate a goal dancing in front of everyone? Is it humility to compare a teammate or rival to my record with yours?
We can all quickly figure this out, underestimating the merits of another athlete is not sporting behavior and, while it may be related to humility, it can be related more with respect.
On the other hand, if we say that to be humble is to be aware of both successes and mistakes, we can infer that talking about those successes can naturally be linked to humility, as long as we do not brag about it. not. However, the line between boastfulness and naturalness will always be blurredIt would therefore be an ambiguous criterion that could be worthwhile for us to philosophize in this small article, but not to educate, to this very important value, our young athletes in training.
The criterion which resolves this hole in the definition would be that this knowledge of successes and of the capacity to improve oneself, did not depend on the opinion of others. I can make a spectacular game, but if I need to validate it with my teammates, rivals or spectators, I won’t be humble there. If I have to make an over-the-top celebration to get more attention to my goal, I won’t be humble there. If a colleague, rival, friend (or journalist) asks me about this goal and I express my sincere opinion about it, then yes, I will be humble. If he celebrated the goal with my teammates, like everyone else he scored, if I will be humble.
Therefore, in the name of maximizing the value of humility, it is important to generate and strengthen self-esteem, Since, following the logic of our speech, it will be a consequence of the latter.
It is common for people who are more arrogant about their accomplishments, looks or merits to do so by masking low self-esteem, as if it is overcompensation as a defense mechanism. self. And it’s true that one of the sources of self-efficacy is the feedback we get from others, so I can manipulate that feedback, or my perception of it, to protect my self-esteem.
However, the healthiest solution is to achieve high self-esteem, which does not need protection and therefore does not depend on others. Therefore, it is vitally important to educate trainees to gain this self-esteem through objective data that speaks for itself on its merits, as well as be very conscientious in how we reinforce the achievement of these merits.
In this way, if our self-esteem depends exclusively on the goals we achieve and our room for improvement, we will have a strong self-esteem that will not depend on the appreciation of others and, in turn, we will not have no need to display anti-humility behaviors to perceive this self-esteem. Therefore, understanding humility in this way, I would say that not only is humility too good, but above all, it is healthy.